Our children are growing very fast, giving us more and more surprises. It’s good if they are pleasant, but this is far from always the case. A diligent student, for example, may suddenly refuse to do homework and begin to skip classes. In such a situation, it's time for parents to think about what to do if the child does not want to learn. We will try to answer this question.
First of all, it is necessary to establish the
reason why the child does not want to learn. Often the blame for everything is unfolded relations with classmates. In this situation, the discussion of the problem at the
parent meeting in the presence of other mothers and fathers and the children themselves will help. If the conflict arose out of the blue, you need to talk with the child and explain to him how to behave. Be sure to listen to your son or daughter. Only the opportunity to speak out can significantly affect the situation.
If your child is offended by other students, be sure to support him. Try to praise his self-esteem. Admire his courage, because he, in spite of everything, goes to school.
What if the child does not want to study due to a conflict with the teacher? It’s a bit more complicated here. To begin with, you yourself will have to seriously and thoroughly talk with the teacher. Perhaps this will settle the differences. However, in some cases it is necessary to take extreme measures - to change the class or even school. Of course, this is quite difficult, but sometimes this is the only solution to the problem.
Another reason children refuse to go to school or skip classes is the difficulty in learning the program. Perhaps the child is simply not “given” some object. What to do? If the
child does not want to study for this reason, then you need to work with him at home. If you yourself do not have enough time for this, hire a tutor.
What if the child does not want to learn, but there are no visible reasons for this? Motivate him! However, this must be done correctly. The following tips will help here:
- Stimulate the curiosity of the child. Do not give him ready answers, let him search for them himself. Competent motivation is based on the main feature of any child - curiosity.
- Explaining to the student material that he does not understand, give life examples, use illustrations, comparisons, etc.
- It is advisable to avoid value judgments. In this case, internal motivation is more appropriate .
- To establish trusting relationships with a child that are extremely important for any family, take a greater interest in his life and hobbies. Even if you do not approve of all of them, the child will be pleased if you show participation. The ideal option is a common passion for parents and schoolchildren. For example, if you have a daughter, then needlework can become such an activity, if your son is modeling.
- Child development should be comprehensive. Let him attend circles or sections. It can be football or gymnastics, music or drawing. In this case, you need to choose based on the abilities and interests of the student himself.
- Game techniques are very effective, especially in the case of younger students. For example, a mother can become a student for a while, and a baby a teacher. Let him give a lesson in mathematics or natural science, explaining the topic with which he is having difficulty. Elements of the game will help in the case of teaching preschoolers. If a child does not want to learn to read, for example, you need to revise your methodology for conducting this process. It is important to turn learning into a fun game so that the kid is interested. Then he will not even notice how he will gain new knowledge.