Raising a child is quite a complicated matter. Every adult who does not have his own children and sees injustice towards them on the street, thinks that he himself would never have done this. Or thinks that his children will not be like this ill-bred youth. In addition, the statement that everything depends on the parents is considered to be absolutely true. Of course, the parental example is already half the educational process. But at the genetic level, too much is passed on to the younger generation. Including a manner of behavior.
To know how to properly raise a child, you must first evaluate yourself.
Psychologists identify five methods of parenting . They apply to almost all minors, regardless of their age.
Persuasion method
This method can be recommended to all parents when the question only arises in their consciousness - how to properly raise a child. Any person is pleased when they talk to him. The method of persuasion is based on conversation. This is by no means moralizing. During such a conversation, people talk on equal terms. It is best when, during or after the child’s misconduct, his mother or father say: “We need to talk.” In no case can one use instructions or threats, the conversation should go in a smooth rhythm, it can be supported by examples from life (adults can always find an example - if not from life, so from a fairy tale). And the child himself can make a conclusion at the end of the conversation. This will be his decision.
Reinforcement method
The system of parenting must necessarily be built with this method in mind. It is in this context that praise or censure are possible. This method is especially effective in preschool and school age. Everyone is pleased to be praised. Therefore, parents need to notice the small victories of their child. However, praise should not turn into praise. In some cases, just a parental smile or a paternal handshake is enough. Of course, it is necessary in the presence of other people (relatives, friends) to talk about the victories of the child. And the subsequent actions of the baby can be a confirmation that parents know exactly how to properly raise their children.
Actions that are reprehensible should in no case be brought to the attention of strangers. The punishment in each case can be different: denial of sweets, in the acquisition of something, etc.
Many parents consider this method to be the answer to the question of how to properly raise a child.
The method of "never-ending"
A fairly complicated method in the system of parenting. Young children often, without any explanation, parry: "I do not want, I will not." In this case, parental patience can work wonders.
The most important thing for parents in this case is to remember how to properly raise a child, and to know what you want to achieve from the baby.
On his "I do not want" it is necessary to simply and firmly say: "It is necessary."
For instance:
“Let's go eat some porridge ...” - “I don't want to!” “Porridge is a compulsory breakfast.” - “I won’t!” - "After the porridge in your tummy will stop gurgling, and he will thank you." - "I do not want!" - "We must eat porridge." The child at this moment will understand that this action is inevitable. And stop bickering.
The one, two, three method
Especially young children are well involved in this method. With the actions of a child that are not allowed to him, it is enough for the parent to start counting, before warning the baby, than he faces a refusal to fulfill the request.
After “one, two, three,” if the child does not stop his actions, punishment must be imposed. The next time the count starts, the child will know that the adult is determined.
Physical punishment method
The most unworthy method of education. Some psychologists believe that they are usually used by flawed adults. They can use force against a person who is much weaker. This method can cause nothing but aggression and bitterness.
How to raise a child is up to each parent to decide for themselves.
Only the most literate and smart adults can bring up a friend. This is a great achievement. But it is within the power of everyone.