All parents are divided into two categories: some from the time of pregnancy have studied various methods of education from different authors, while others have children growing like grass, completely left to their own devices. In fact, the golden mean should be observed. A small child has a subjective view of the world. And the task of mom and dad is not only to teach the baby to dress and cross the road to the green light. Parents should share their own experience and try to develop a child’s aesthetic taste and character qualities that can help him in adulthood. Raising a daughter is not an easy task. We bring to your attention a list of useful recommendations that are relevant at all times.
The main thing is the microclimate in the family
Popular wisdom says that the main thing in any family is love and respect. These words have been tested for centuries and there is no reason to doubt their correctness. Before planning a daughter's upbringing, spouses should establish and harmonize their own relationships. Quarrels, misunderstanding and inattention of parents to each other negatively affect the psyche of the child. A common mistake made by many women is to try to save their families for their daughter. Living "separately" from your husband, but under one roof, you can fool a 2-3-year-old child, but already at the age of five your fraud will be revealed. Children do not understand much, but they perfectly see and feel emotions. Moreover, it is from our parents that we all learn a married life. And if a child grew up in a “problem” family, it is likely that in adulthood he will repeat the mistakes of the older generation by marriage.
The family is one
Love and a sense of security are important needs of every baby. Participate in the life of a child from birth. Teach your daughter to share her feelings and problems. Be equally respectful and attentive to a toy broken by a neighbor or failure at a competition in
kindergarten, and then in ten years you will know who your child is talking with, if he is in a bad company and if he can build relationships with the opposite sex . Many psychologists advise arranging family tips. This is a great way to emphasize family cohesion and enable the child to feel like an independent person. Any questions can be discussed: from plans for the weekend to moving or choosing an educational institution. Teach your child to compare different options and reasonably express their own opinions.
A woman should be feminine ... in moderation!
The upbringing of a daughter should include the development of femininity in a small person. The virtues of the beautiful half of humanity are calm, judiciousness, tenderness and gentleness. Gently hint to the child about this on occasion. But from the hackneyed phrases like "you can’t, you're a girl ..." it is better to move away. On the contrary, do not forget to remind the baby that men and women are equal in their rights, that the fair sex today can build a career, engage in science or creativity. With regard to the development of tenderness and sensitivity, involve the girl in caring for animals and younger children. If you don’t have a pet and only have one child in your family, encourage family and friends to communicate with your kids, go to the zoo, animal shelters or feed the birds in the park.
Dad can
A father is an image of an ideal and closest man for every child. Many are convinced that communication with dad is most important for boys. But this is not so, the girls are also drawn to their fathers. The traditional qualities expected by children from a male parent are discretion, strength, reliability. In our country, patriarchal families are most widespread , where the father is also the main authority. Dad in the education of his daughter should play the role of a fair mentor and advocate. However, the child should be protected in moderation: the father can and should check the children's room before going to bed, but if the child has conflicts with peers, his task is to talk and give some useful tips that can help resolve this situation.
Tips for single fathers
It would seem that it can be more difficult for a man than to raise a daughter without the help of a wife? However, everything happens in life, and if for some reason you become a single father, the most important thing is not to despair. Rule one and most important: women also have their secrets. It is unacceptable for the father to talk with the teenage girl about the physiology of the female body, intimate life, and other such things. Of course, this topic cannot be completely omitted. It is very good if a girl brought up without a mother has a friend in the face of an adult woman. It can be some kind of relative (grandmother, aunt), mother of a close girlfriend or teacher. Encourage such communication if you are confident in the integrity of the woman chosen by the child.
The role of the father in raising his daughter changes significantly if he brings her up alone. Tactile contacts and all kinds of manifestations of love and tenderness are important for girls. Hugging a child is necessary every day, and preferably as often as possible. In this case, a man will also have to teach tenderness and care, as well as form a true image of a woman. Remember: educational institutions and peers will not replace families, education should begin at home.
If only mom is at home ...
It is believed that
raising a child for a single mother is much easier than for a single father. This is not entirely true. Women who are forced to raise children without spouses assume the functions of both parents. Often these are some "steel ladies", exhausting themselves with work and not paying enough attention and tenderness to the kids. In this case, the upbringing of the daughter by the mother should be based on a scheme similar to the relationship in a full-fledged family. Do not be afraid of something to miss the child. If the atmosphere in the house is calm and harmonious, the baby will not feel left out. Do not focus the child’s attention on how hard you have to, give him enough time and attention.
The most important advice for all single-parent families is that you cannot form a negative image of the absent father in the girl’s mind. Answer all your questions honestly and as neutrally as possible. Believe me, even at 3-4 years old a child is able, if not to understand, to accept the phrase "my dad and I decided to live separately." In no case do not say that the father is not a good person or left because he does not like the baby.
We form a true self-esteem
An important quality for a woman is self-love. Raising a daughter by father and mother should include the development of adequate self-esteem. Teach your child to accept himself for who he is. Tell the girl that she is beautiful, never criticize her appearance. The same applies to behavior and character in general. Compare the phrases “you are bad” and “you did wrong, but you can fix it.” Your task is not to account the child for all the mistakes and failures, but to teach how to do it right and better. Also develop your ability to easily overcome failures and protect yourself and your interests.
Development must be comprehensive
The upbringing of a minor daughter must include aesthetic development. From early childhood, introduce your child to works of art, take walks to beautiful places and dress up. Choose interesting and colorful toys, tell exciting stories. And most importantly, talk to your child as much as possible. Already in 3-4 years, the baby is a full-fledged interlocutor, with her you can discuss read fairy tales or what you saw during a walk. Organize fun family activities, travel or find some kind of common hobby. The daughter’s upbringing should include the
development of creative abilities, try to create with the little ones in different techniques at home, and a school-age child can be recorded in some kind of interest club.