Young parents are often frightened by the old adage that, together with the children, there are growing problems. So dads and mothers try to curb the younger generation in advance so that the terrible transitional age does not cover all family well-being with an avalanche of misfortune. However, everything is not so scary. At all times, young people were considered wrong, unreliable and disrespectful to elders, even archaeological finds dating back to antiquity testify to this. Therefore, we are not talking about a single case of suddenly spoiled youth, this is a normal phenomenon, so parents are better off learning from the mistakes of others, saving themselves from negative thoughts and feelings.
Signs of puberty
It is almost impossible to predict the exact moment when the notorious transitional age begins. Therefore, many parents are not ready for such tests. It seems that only yesterday his son was a sweet boy, and today he is rude, inadequately reacting, or maybe even started to secretly smoke. However, tentatively, problems should be expected when the child enters adolescence. On average, this is a period of twelve to fourteen years. In some cases, the younger generation shows early development, then the period of problem age shifts. In some cases, on the contrary, the explosion is delayed to a later time.
If suddenly a child after ten years begins to be capricious, strange to respond to the comments of adults, argue over trifles, then you can congratulate the parents - this is a transitional age. Previously, mom and dad were authority, but now any of their opinions will be questioned, harshly criticized. Contradictory actions and judgments are becoming the norm, and it is quite difficult to withstand it.
Why are teens so harmful?
Do children really do all this in spite of parents? Psychologists argue that in most cases this is not a malicious intent. A teenager is obliged to try the world for strength, including the authority of parents, this is an integral part of growing up. In many ways, the younger generation owes this stress to several factors.
It is during puberty that there is a hormonal surge, for teenagers everything seems more vibrant, sharp and important. The level of hormones affects the perception of the world to such an extent that sometimes it seems to parents that they have replaced their dear child.
Another serious factor affecting the level of harmfulness of character is the uneven growth during puberty. Internal organs do not keep up with the rapid growth of the body, because of this an imbalance appears in the body, which also negatively affects the character.
This incomprehensible rising generation
Both sides are to blame for any conflict, so adults are deeply wrong when they try to blame teenagers. For a child who has begun rapid growth, life is already quite difficult, and if parents join the army of "enemies", it can be very difficult to maintain composure. The main problem of the younger generation is the inability to choose and evaluate allies. It’s hard to demand that this work out well the first time.
The process of growing up a person includes the period of training in the basic techniques of communication. A teenager learns to communicate from the position of a full member of society, he expresses his own opinion, which may be stupid or wrong. This is an inevitable process that can be successful or frankly a failure.
How to build relationships with a teenager?
There is no adult in the world who was not at one time a teenager. You can lie to yourself as much as you like and say that you did not behave like that. Any person in adolescence had periods of rebellion or depression, self-doubt, hatred of the world. For each, this happens in different ways. Indeed, if we consider the synonyms of the word "younger generation" - these are teenagers, boys and girls. These are individual individuals with their own character.
Before yelling at your offspring who has entered a difficult phase of growing up, try to remember yourself. You will not save your child from all bruises and cones; if you forbid everything, he will still find where to get his own experience. The task of parents is to support their child, to convince him that a mistake will not cost him parental love. A brutish and such a complex teenager is still an inexperienced person, a child, he needs support. Do not expect perfect solutions and actions from him, this will save you from disappointment.