But did you know that the Eizer system exists only in the Russian-language search engine. We consider this a Japanese method of raising preschool children. But any search engine on foreign sites does not find anything for the query "Eiser system." Wikipedia does not know such a concept either. And in Japan, in all likelihood, there is no such system. So the question involuntarily begs: "What is the system of education of Eiser?"
In eastern countries, there is a certain policy of parents in the matter of gaining life experience by children. This is expressed in their non-intervention. For example, Japanese parents will not stop the fight, giving the child the opportunity to get their own social experience. Although, as a result of using a policy of non-interference, the Japanese consider their children the most ill-mannered in the world.
Our parents, adopting the experience of the Japanese, forget about the different mentality and social conditions. In addition, Eiser’s system is clearly exaggerating the need to lift bans on children.
In Japan, it is not customary to restrict children in their actions until it harms the child or other people. Children are not accepted to punish, depriving them of their usual pleasures, but punishment in a milder form exists. The education system is designed in such a way that with age a person is pinched into an increasingly narrow framework of behavior.
We interpret this as a complete absence of prohibitions for children under 7 years old. Imagine a situation where your child wanted to stick a piece of wire into a power outlet, will you allow him to do this? I doubt it. Imagine that he falls in the middle of the store and demands a toy. He has the right to it. You bring him up according to this system. How do you like it?
Pampering and
spoiling a child is far from the same thing. What will we achieve by allowing the child everything, as the Eizer system recommends? The Internet is replete with examples of such parenting. I would not really like to be in place of victims of such children. Parents, relieving themselves of responsibility, undoubtedly greatly simplify their lives. After all, it is much simpler and more convenient to say that we are raising a child without prohibitions than to teach him proper behavior.
The Eizer system has an excellent replacement, which is definitely suitable for each country and each parent. Do not forbid your child to do anything! Do not Cry! Do not scold him for trying to do something wrong! A child is a small MAN! Do you like bans or screams at you? Of course not. Let us then instead of the words “you can’t do this”, “don’t dare to do this”, “do not do this”, we will say “this is not good, because ...”. Each of us knows why this or that is bad or impossible, and the child does not know this yet. Explain it to him. Use simple and understandable words for clarification, give examples and let the child look at the situation from the other side.
The child should learn not only from the experience of the parents. He must comprehend many things himself. But the rejection of the role of the parent in education, giving him the opportunity to do everything, can not be a great option. You must guide your child, explain to him, prevent actions that harm him and others. Do not forbid! Help to understand that doing this is not good!