Fatigue bordering on insanity is what psychologist Edda Le Chan describes this period. In fact, everything is somewhat wrong. You can cope with the crisis of the first year of life if you develop the right behavior strategy in advance.
Causes of the crisis
Closer to the child’s first birthday, parents start to notice with surprise that the child from obedient and sweet turns into an absolutely uncontrollable creature, which is simply impossible to understand. The child constantly says “no”, for a long time refuses to fall asleep, is naughty, does not let go of himself, “is wounded” while eating, and fights on the playground. What is happening to him? The answer is simple: the crisis of the first year of life.
The main reason for the shocking behavior of the baby is his awareness of himself as an independent person. Such independence manifests itself in the child’s ability to move autonomously from parents, starting with the formation of clear speech, copying the behavior patterns of mom and dad or older brothers and sisters. All of these stages of development of the baby and lead to unacceptable, from the point of view of adults, behavior.
The time frame of this life stage is very long and can take an age from 10 months to 2 years. It is important to notice this moment in the life of the child, because the crisis of 1 year is a kind of preparation for the baby on the way to a crisis of three years. And it depends on how the parents will behave, how successfully they will pass the next stage of development of the baby.
Adult behavior strategy
If the parents noticed that the crisis of the first year of life has come, then they should get together and discuss how to jointly and correctly respond to one or another action of the baby.
Problem: Vagaries and uncontrollability . Solution: stay calm and clearly understand the difference between a hysteria and a child’s poor health. At this age, despite certain speech successes, the child is still not quite able to express his emotions. Therefore, for him the easiest way to arrange a tantrum than to explain what he still needs. In this case, do not shout or express your anger in any other way. The kid is just scared. Instead, leave it for a couple of minutes alone. If this does not help, then it is worth switching his attention to another object, for example, to his favorite toys or to a bird outside the window. The crisis of 1 year of life is very often accompanied by tantrums, and therefore, in no case should the child be allowed to achieve what he wants with the help of tantrums.
Problem: Permanent no . Solution: avoid negative turns in your own speech. The crisis of 1 year is very often accompanied by numerous prohibitions, and therefore “no” is a common word and quickly enters the vocabulary of the baby, becoming his favorite. The child really looks like a sponge, and his behavior at this age, first of all, is a reflection of the behavior of parents. And therefore, Mom and Dad are instead of “we won’t”, “I won’t give”, “you can’t” use “let's go tomorrow”, “I will, but later”, “it can harm you.”
Problem: giving up daytime sleep . Solution: compliance with the "ritual" of laying. The crisis of 1 year of life is provoked by a large flow of information that the baby receives and which can overload the baby’s nervous system. And therefore, an hour before daytime sleep, you must put the baby in a quiet mode - read books or have lunch.
Problem: became the shadow of their parents . Solution: to convince that you will always be with him. The crisis of 1 year is often accompanied by the fact that the baby is afraid of parents leaving. Therefore, do not forcibly separate him from yourself. It is worth talking to him constantly, even if the parent is in the next room, playing hide and seek with the child, gradually accustoming to the fact that mom is not, but she will definitely return.
Problem: I will not eat . Solution: do not force him to eat. The crisis of 1 year is closely associated with the formation of food addictions in the baby. And therefore, if the child began to refuse the proposed food, you can not force him to eat force. Offer various options for dishes, take long walks before eating, offer him to eat independently.
Problem: communication with peers . Solution: set your own example. To begin with, parents should show at home how to share with others, how to communicate with other people. At such moments, you should connect the baby. Gradually certain patterns of behavior will become his habit and transferred from his family to communication with peers.
The crisis of 1 year can be overcome, it is only necessary to make joint efforts for its smooth passage.