Until recently, the baby was a lying screaming bobblehead, and now it has become a mischievous running baby who needs to feel everything and taste it. But only a year has passed.
Many parents notice that it was at this age that their child became simply uncontrollable, capricious and characteristic despot, who commands grandmothers, mom, and sometimes dad. Immediately everyone begins to think that they
spoiled the child, that these are the first manifestations of his difficult nature, which will always be with him. In fact, everything is not so scary, and all this harm will pass without belts and punishments. Such a sharp change in the behavior of a man is called so - a
crisis of 1 year in a child. The fact is that it was a difficult year, the baby has come a long way from the baby to the erect, he saw a lot, learned. Already, he is a small but mature personality with his own mood and gastronomic predilections. Such rapid developmental activity exerts strong pressure on the fragile psyche. Sometimes a child does not want to do what he does, but otherwise he does not know how to express his demands and emotions. Literally a little more than six months will pass, and the baby will learn to cope with itself, the character will change for the better. In the period from 9 months to one and a half years, a crisis of one year may begin.
Age crises in children mark each new step in the psychological development and formation of the child independent. 1 year, 3, 7, 12-14 years are the main crisis lines that every child goes through. The last period, called
transitional age, is the longest and most difficult to overcome, but neither children nor their parents will be able to avoid it.
How to understand what started
The crisis of 1 year in a child is quite easy to diagnose, there are a number of defining signs:
- uncontrollability, difficulties in carrying out educational work, stubbornness, attempts to do as he should, the demand for increased attention and at the same time, the refusal of help and a strong hug;
- immediate reaction to any prohibition by insult, screaming, tears, aggressive behavior;
- vagaries without a reason;
- contradictions in behavior: only the baby passionately desired something, as he was already throwing it out of uselessness, asked for help, to give, and immediately refused help, wanting to do it himself.
Expert Advice
Psychology calls the crisis of one year a normal phenomenon and gives clear explanations. After a year, the baby begins to actively walk and run, he has an interest in exploring everything that meets his path. It was then that he was faced with a mass of incomprehensible prohibitions for him not to climb into cabinets, not to touch drugs, cosmetics, tools, wires, not to open, not to pull. Most recently, the child saw how his parents did all this and held it in their hands, but for some reason he should not. Psychologists recommend putting as few prohibitions as possible, having discussed this with all close relatives, so that it doesn’t turn out that mom allows and dad doesn't. Give the child the opportunity to climb onto the lower shelves of cabinets and shelves, pull out and fold back objects lying there, potentially dangerous before removing the young researcher from the field of view.
Fear of losing mom
The crisis of the child of the first year of life does not do without such a problem as the persistent following of the mother. The kid accompanies her everywhere, and if the door of the bathroom or the toilet room is closed in front of his nose, then he can burst into tears for a long time. But this can be avoided if you involve a little whim in the game, for example, collect colored candy wrappers that mom slip under the door.
You can sing songs, tune melodies, clap your hands - all this will become a proof to the child that her mother is nearby. If a woman intends to leave or set aside some time for herself, then first she must spend at least half an hour in close contact with her child. Then he, fed up with a joint pastime, he will want freedom and independent play.
Stubbornness and crisis 1 year in a child
A one-year-old baby is often stubborn, refusing to walk, eat, sleep, dress. He does not care what to refuse, the main thing is that in this way, as it seems to him, he shows his independence. Relatives or favorite toys will help show how to do it right: put the doll on the pot, feed the bear porridge, wash the face of the bunny. The child will certainly want to repeat this. Do not insist on your own if the baby does not want to eat or go to bed. Let him do what he wants, and after half an hour, he may be hungry and he will call his mother to the kitchen.
I myself!
Excessive independence begins to appear actively, but her parents are not happy, believing that their child is still too small to do something himself.
This is one of the main problems accompanying the crisis of one year. Psychology recommends that you do not stop the baby’s attempts to put on his hat, unbutton his jacket, wipe off the dust, or eat with his own spoon. Of course, my mother will succeed in this faster and more accurately, but it is very important not to drown out the children's initiative, otherwise he will get used to the fact that everything is done for him, and then getting him to clean his room will be very problematic.
Tyranny or liberalism
There are 2 models of parenting at the moment when the crisis of one year began. The first age crisis of the child is complicated by the inability of the baby to express his dissatisfaction and demands. Sometimes a little brawler pulls adults somewhere by the hand or pokes a finger in an unknown direction. They wave away and do not pay attention, but for a child this is very important. As a result, parental neglect provokes childish tantrum. Some mothers and fathers believe that you should not give your child freedom, force, prohibit and insist on his own. After all, they are trying for its good and safety.
Partly they are right, but do not forget that the baby is already a person who may want to watch a cartoon about Luntik and not about Cheburashka, love apples, not cabbage, feel insult, fear, disappointment, joy, fatigue. If all children's attempts at independence and expressing one’s own desires and needs are thwarted, the risk is great to grow an uninitiated lazy person who is used to taking all decisions for him. It is not at all difficult to let the child do what he loves, but in a safe mode for him. He wants to play with colorful pills, even if he plays, but you can replace them with large colored buttons. He loves not only to consider books and magazines with pictures, but also to tear thin pages, you should replace them with children's books with thick cardboard sheets. Any prohibition or action for compulsory fulfillment can be beaten cheerfully, creatively approaching the educational process so that the child fulfills everything without noticing it.
The crisis of 1 year of a child’s life is not a disease, therefore there is no reason to constantly feel sorry for the child and allow him everything, to indulge, believing that he is now feeling bad and difficult. In the future, he will be able to use his mood swings as a way of manipulating his parents.
How to survive the crisis period
The crisis of 1 year in a child goes away: in girls - by 1.5 years, in boys - by 2, but which of them will be a baby depends only on the parents. We must try to treat the child as an adult, listen, try to understand his mood and desires. Do not force him to do something against his will, of course, if it is not about taking important medications or putting on boots and hats in the cold. But you don’t need to try to feed the child soup, if he wants porridge, make him play cubes and cars according to your rules.
If you properly organize the upbringing and communication in a crisis of a child of the first year of life, then you can help him not only easily overcome all the difficulties of becoming his character, but also master new knowledge and skills.