Every woman dreams of becoming a mother once. And the more consciously this aspiration is, the calmer it is towards the difficulties that arise in its path. But there is one excitement, an experience that exists as long as humanity exists - the fear of childbirth. And the savages dressed in animal skins, and the queen - all equally went through a difficult and painful stage - the birth of a baby. And the more thoroughly the pregnant woman is prepared for this amazing process, the less often the phrase “I'm afraid to give birth!” Sounds. Therefore, relatives and friends should be patient and prepare with it, help deal with anxieties, and even, perhaps, go into childbirth.
Where to start?
Rate the problem as specific as possible
To fight something, you need to realize this. Describe the experience of someone close to you, you can a psychologist or a doctor. Write, tell, draw - let your fear called “I'm afraid to give birth” take on real features. And it will become clear what exactly causes alarm - pain, suspense, fear not to cope, excitement for the child’s health or something else. Now that it’s clear what is disturbing, each item can be easily dealt with.
Pain? The level of modern medicine allows you to give birth painlessly if you wish, but many mothers decide to take this difficult path with their child, who is undergoing severe stress when moving from her mother’s pleasant tummy to a real, noisy and cold world. There are dozens of types of painkillers, so pain is a completely solvable problem. Now many women in labor are offered epidural anesthesia.
The unknown? Go through the birth process virtually - learn as much as you can about it. Decide on the maternity hospital, the doctor, do not forget to say that you are tormented by anxiety attacks - “I'm afraid to give birth”, let him help you “pull yourself together” in panic attacks. Collect bags, write down and think over what and when you will do - clarity brings calm. There are many sources of information. Read books, consult with a gynecologist, watch a video - collect more information about the upcoming process. And do not forget - only positive emotions. You will be fine. Attitude is half the battle.
Fear that you will not cope? It is inherent in nature that even without knowing anything, without experienced assistants in the environment, women have successfully given birth and will give birth for many centuries. It is like the ability to breathe, eat, drink. Rely on your own body, and of course, on qualified doctors who take dozens of women in labor every day.
Excitement about possible problems with the child or with you? Choose a pleasant and experienced doctor, decide on a maternity hospital, you can first see what level of equipment there is, the situation, in general, everything that you will encounter during childbirth. Such preparation calms, instills confidence in a successful outcome. Even the most premature and difficult babies are being saved now, so your case is quite mundane and natural, so that everything goes at the best level!
Keeping worries, fears, and anxieties always harmful, and especially for pregnant women! Therefore, pronouncing what excites you, you already automatically remove part of the load from the heart. Just start to worry - talk about it, there are always patient ears of a husband, girlfriend, mother, doctor. Prayer is also a great solution, if faith in God is close to you, it cleanses the heart, soul and thoughts. You can drink light soothing teas - mint, valerian and other sedative herbs, but only after consulting with your doctor.
Think about baby
Even the most minimal negative emotions are strictly contraindicated for you and your child - why bother the baby in your tummy? Always remember this - everything that is in your heart also feels crumbs. And before you think: “how I am afraid to give birth”, think about how your baby is afraid to leave the safe, warm and comfortable mother’s tummy. Therefore, you must communicate with him, calming both him and yourself, gently stroking his tummy.
It is worth filling your life only with positive emotions. Whenever possible, everything negative should be avoided or minimized. Walking in the park, going to the sea, doing fitness or yoga in the fresh air, soothing music, delicious food, beloved people, the feeling of happiness from meeting you soon will help you avoid fear. And an additional leave before childbirth gives freedom to fully enjoy the amazing last months of pregnancy. Make several photo sessions in your condition - a decent dose of endorphins from such an activity is guaranteed.
Do not forget, childbirth is not a punishment, but a magical moment of meeting with your blood, your long-awaited happiness! Think of the birth process in this way, and you will not only not be scared, but even, on the contrary, joyfully from the thought of an imminent meeting! Go to the hospital - to accomplish the most wonderful miracle in the world - the emergence of a new life! And no "I'm afraid to give birth" is not necessary!