Adolescence , puberty , puberty - this state has many names, but do not call it, but to refuse that the psychology of a teenager is built during this period is meaningless. Many parents deny the fact that their ten-year-old little child begins to grow up and needs close attention. Indeed, the period of breaking one’s life position, mental and sexual-physical development begins on average at 10 years and lasts up to 18 years, but psychologists still cannot agree on what age to call teenage and what youthful. After all, this age, dragging on for several years, is also divided in turn into several stages. In particular, the first stage, when the child ceases to consider himself a child, and the second, when the teenager begins to equate himself with an adult, and, therefore, sets new standards of behavior for himself, which, in his opinion, correspond to the behavior of an adult. During this period, it is very important for parents not to distance themselves from the teenager, but rather take an active part in shaping his worldview and social position in society. It is important to accept his position as an adult and to communicate with him on an equal footing, and not to oppress his interests, motivating it with the fact that he is a child and cannot make his own decisions. The age psychology of a teenager is such that, during the growing up period, awareness of one's “I” is formed and logical and abstract thinking develops rapidly , in connection with this, the so-called deviant behavior appears when a teenager has “authorities” whose behavior he considers to be the standard of adult behavior and seeks to imitate him. In this case, the teenager will be directed in the right direction in order to form adequate adequate norms of behavior for him.
There is such a term as “the psychology of a difficult teenager,” many say that at this age children become uncontrollable, moody, and aggressive. I allow myself to disagree with this, or rather not completely agree. Such behavior manifests itself in a child only with the wrong approach to the upbringing of a teenager in his family, at school and his incorrect socialization. At this age, socialization - the recognition of oneself as a person with their needs and personality traits, is extremely necessary and important for the child. If parents and others do not support the adolescent’s desire for independence and make their own decisions, he often takes it hostilely and begins to look for support in other places, and this is already fraught with the appearance of incorrect goals, motivations, and as a result leads to the formation of inappropriate behavior.
The psychology of a teenager is focused on the appearance of their own goals in life, they strive to set their goals and achieve them with all their might, adolescents are distinguished by their determination and assertiveness, which in no case can be quenched, but only these character traits can be maintained and developed. But, unfortunately, in most cases in our families this is perceived as a protest, as a challenge to a child to an adult and the parents begin to actively suppress all psychological neoplasms of the teenager.
The psychology of a teenager is complex and ambiguous, and each person has it in different ways, and the duration of this period is determined by many factors, including family, school, teachers, society, psychologists, the media, and much more. However, do not forget that each of us went through this, and everyone remembers how important it is to get support from the closest ones — our family — during this period. Therefore, listen to your teenage children and support them.