Love - how wonderful it is ... This is an unforgettable mutual feeling of two hearts! This passionate look that does not give rest to her lover, sincerity of feelings and no pretense ... Evening walks, dates under the moonlight, conversations until the morning are replaced by family life, which brings its own corrections to the relationship.
A solemn and bewitching day comes - the day of legal marriage. From this moment, another particle of the universe formed - a new family. Each year, rubbing against each other, the couple goes through difficult moments in life, experiencing grief and happiness, illness and joy. Further, joint life tempers relations, taking them to a new level.
Opal wedding: when is this anniversary?
It is not for nothing that the people give their name to every year of life they live in marriage, since each period presents its lessons and difficulties, overcoming which family values increase. For an opal wedding to come, how many years in peace and harmony do you need to live? Let's look at the years: the first is chintz, the second is paper, the third is leather, the fourth is linen, the fifth is wooden, the sixth is cast iron, the seventh is copper, and the eighth is tin 9th - faience, 10th - pink or tin, 11th - steel, 12th - nickel, 13th - lily of the valley, 14th - agate, 15th - glass, 16th and The 17th is not celebrated, the 18th is turquoise, the 19th is not celebrated, the 20th is porcelain, the 21st is an opal wedding. There remains a large number of years and anniversaries to live up to the 100th anniversary of the Red Wedding.
Why is it called that?
Years of family life are coming, and the solemn marriage is already far behind. Many anniversaries were celebrated, and here came the 21st wedding anniversary - an opal wedding. It is named after opal, which has long been considered a stone that attracts love and fulfills hopes, a symbol of patience and wisdom, it is also used as a talisman for talented and creative people.
On the one hand, the stone is endowed with favorable qualities for family life, but on the other hand, they say that it brings quarrels. And in which family there is no discord and disagreement, because only having learned to find a way out of the current conflict situation, the couple will be able to maintain close, reverent relations for many years.
Anniversary
21 years is the age of adulthood, when maturity comes not only physical but also mental, comes to an understanding of everything that happens around. So is the opal wedding: when, after many years of living together, the children grow up and arrange their personal lives, the married couple of parents, as in youth, are left alone with each other.
At this time, the ardor of past feelings is reviving, awe of the future. Some kind of family wisdom comes. And so it came, this anniversary is an opal wedding. How many years have been spent and passed together, I recall right now, when, alas, the spouses are not very young with their bodies, but they still flutter in a wonderful dance with their souls. How much is given to love and care for a partner, will never be able to leave the memory.
Celebration
Celebrating the anniversary is made in a very narrow family circle, and even better only together. After the porcelain wedding, I don’t really want pompous celebrations, so the opal wedding is modest. On this day, it is advised to take a walk, as before, to hold a date, to devote this time only to each other. Again comes the romance in the relationship. You might want to bring coffee to bed again, give a gently compliment, even just smack on the cheek, as it was in youth and simply forgotten for many years of fuss and transience.
Presents
The question arises: what is given for an opal wedding? There are many answers to this question. Now let's figure it out in order. Loving people give each other jewelry with opal. If relatives and friends are looking for a present, preferences are given to significant gifts, such as expensive sets of dishes or, possibly, modern appliances. Having received jewelry with opal as a gift, you need to remember that this stone is whimsical and needs special care.
By its properties, it is persistent, not afraid of either water or cosmetics. But all the same, dust can be worn during wearing, therefore, it must be periodically wiped with a soft cloth so as not to scratch. There is a belief: how to relate to opal jewelry, so the stone will affect the state of its owner. If you begin to pay attention to the stone and take care of it, he will protect the owner with his magical powers and become for him a kind of talisman.
Traditions
The day has come - and now she is standing on the threshold - your opal wedding. What to give and how to celebrate, we have examined, and what are the traditions, now we will understand. So, since ancient times, on the night of a significant day, it is customary to put an opal gem (you can decorate it) in a container (ladle, pan, etc.), sprinkle sugar on top, pour water and cover with a cloth or towel, the sugar will dissolve overnight in water. In the early morning, water the flowers growing in the house with this water. This ritual symbolizes the well-being and peace of those living in these mansions.
An opal wedding is also associated with the beginning of a relationship of maturity, so on the eve of the celebration it is necessary to collect broken, spoiled (with scratches or spalls), possibly partially lost jewelry sets, for example, only one earring remains, and take such jewelry to the jeweler so that he pours two rings , one to the spouse, the second to the spouse. This will mark the era of the beginning of "adult" relationships.
Each pair is unique in its own way, like every person, it is possible to predict the behavior of a partner and to catch his thoughts, having lived with him a lot of time. But after marriage, life wisdom is not always enough to not bring the family into a split. You can consider the advice of psychologists who will help create a strong family.
Recommendations
Do not pay attention to the little things in everyday life, retrain a person who is already over 20 years old, it is almost impossible or extremely difficult. By focusing on socks that are not laid there, or coffee that has not been cooked in the right way, you are creating a conflict situation that could erupt into serious contention in the future. You must learn to perceive your soul mate with all the shortcomings.
After watching a movie or discussing someone’s spouses with friends, you don’t need to look for flaws in your soul mate. Everyone has their own unique positive qualities that you just need to make out.
You need to be grateful for any help, a gift, because if a person is married or married, this does not mean that your spouse owes something. It is necessary to appreciate every moment lived together.
Respect and respect again. Having lived side by side for many years, people push passion into the background and plunge into real life. At this moment, the main thing is not to cross the line from love to hate and not to put an end to the relationship.
It is necessary to be a strong support to each other: in difficult situations, support for the second half, even just in a word, can lead out of difficulties.
Do not conceal resentment or jealousy; discuss the situation with each other - and, as they say, the stone will fall from the soul.
Adhering to and applying these simple rules in life, believe me, your opal wedding will be just around the corner!