The first date, first feelings, marriage proposal, marriage, life together and two treasured stripes on the test. And then what? The joy of motherhood, fear, tears, happiness, and, perhaps, suspense or disappointment.
Children and responsibility
In order for the birth of a child not to become a complete surprise for the expectant mother, it is necessary with all responsibility to approach such a problem as pregnancy. Phrases like "God gave the child, will give for the child" - this is complete nonsense. Proof of this are families where parents of alcoholics or drug addicts give birth to their tenth child, and God did not give them anything! Dangerous and very early motherhood, everyday life and joys of which are not fully understood. Such mothers do not yet fully realize that a child is happiness, and may not fully surrender to a little man. In such cases, it is good when there are caring grandparents nearby.
Therefore, before making a decision on replenishment in the family, a woman needs to clearly understand herself: whether the desire to give birth to a child is conscious, and did not arise momentarily under the influence of emotions, or, even worse, is not a way to keep the beloved man next to her.
It is necessary to remember that to conceive a child is simple, and to become a mother for a little man is hard work. That is why some mothers take care of their babies, while others abandon them and leave them to their fate. Ideally, the child should be desired, and his parents loving each other and able to take responsibility for the consequences of their decision. Below is the sincere joy of motherhood, the photo of which causes only positive emotions.
The concept
So the decision has been made. However, this is only the beginning of a long journey called motherhood. So what is it? Motherhood is a multifaceted concept; therefore, it does not have a clear scientific definition. It includes the manifestation of care, love, tenderness, affection. This is a special emotional connection, bodily contacts that are so necessary for the baby.
Motherhood requires a woman more than just love - the desire to constantly develop and be a faithful assistant in the knowledge of the world. After all, mom is the most important person in the life of a child.
Postpartum adaptation
However, with the advent of a small miracle, a woman’s life changes dramatically. For some, the adaptation time passes quickly enough and there are no special problems, but for others it turns into eternity. Some mothers every day rejoice at their acquired social status, while others cry, looking out the window and recalling that past life that seemed so carefree and happy.
After all, only becoming a mother, you begin to understand what a great work it is and endless work on yourself!
Emotional state of mother
How much strength and emotion is required for newly made mothers every day! The first years of a baby’s life are very important for his further development, health and formation. And during this period, the emotional state of the mother is extremely important. Yes, you heard right, it was your mother. It will be much more comfortable for the child to be next to a smiling and happy mother than to the one who has fastened a plate with the inscription "I'm tired and I'm sad."
Difficulties mommies
Of course, all the difficulties cannot be avoided, but they can be corrected. Consider several ways that can help mothers experience the joy of motherhood and accept it with gratitude.
Do not forget about yourself! Of course, it is difficult. Sometimes you barely stand on your feet when you spent the whole night without closing your eyes. When a groundhog turns every day and all the actions come down to feeding, swinging, walking, cooking, cleaning and the like. When the head practically does not understand, but inside there is only emptiness and fatigue. There is only one conclusion: do not forget about your needs. The baby will feel calmer next to a rested and happy mom. Take a break from the routine of monotonous everyday life: watch a series, read a book, listen to your favorite music, engage in knitting or embroidery. Everything is available, but do not forget to use it.
Feel free to ask for help! Whether it is a spouse, mother-in-law, grandfather or sister - learn how to attract them into your life with your baby. Believe me, your relatives will be happy to take part in this, even if you have not previously shown such an initiative. Perhaps they, just like you, simply did not want to interfere in the process of education and did not know what help would be timely.
Do not forget about the rest! This is one of the most important rules. A rested mom is a happy mom. Let the spouse take over part of the responsibilities for caring for the baby for a couple of hours a day. To maintain normal performance and basic functions, the female body needs a full and healthy sleep. However, it is not always possible to observe such a regime. But you must always remember: at any convenient opportunity, you need to relax. The child fell asleep - and mom is resting. Let it be just a couple of hours, but what an invaluable help to a tired body in order to replenish energy reserves.
Bouts of pity
Stop feeling sorry for yourself! Attacks of self-pity, unfortunately, are quite common. A constant feeling of imaginary shackles, chains that limit movement and make one believe that a free and interesting life is a thing of the past. Stop! Self-pity is not an option.
As soon as you feel the approach of such an attack, switch your thoughts, direct them in a positive direction. Think of those who now have a lot harder than you. And every day people cope with this.
pros
When you have not the first or second child, the joys of motherhood with many children are generally unforgettable. But you just need to learn how to look for advantages in everything that happens to you!
Tired of breastfeeding? Tired of depending on the process and time of feeding? Look for the pros! During breastfeeding, a special relationship is established between the mother and the baby. At the same time, breast milk is much more useful than a mixture of jars. Appreciate this time!
Do you complain of frequent baby colds? Now imagine how many mothers of special babies sacrifice, while realizing that they will never be completely healthy.
There is light rain or light frost on the street and you really don't want to leave the house? And look for the pros again! Daily walks in the fresh air have not harmed anyone.
Are children's games too boring and uninteresting? Children are great teachers! And we have something to learn from them. Nobody knows how to enjoy trifles so much, it is so easy to find answers to any questions and so naively and limitlessly dream. Only next to the baby we again have the opportunity to learn this world anew, to discover something new and look positively into the future.
Did you lose your desire to move on or was laziness overpowering you? And there are pluses here! Children are the best motivator. Every day they develop in us a desire for action, increase endurance, and give faith in the future. Believe me, all difficulties are on the shoulder when a strong family and happy children are nearby!
Unforgettable moments of joy
If you adhere to the above recommendations, any woman can avoid postpartum depression and experience the joy of motherhood. So what does it consist of:
- The first meeting is the most unforgettable event in the life of every woman, when for the first time you hear the cry of your baby, you feel its warmth, its special smell.
- The first smile - even the most gloomy day it will fill with the sun and for a moment will stop time.
- First steps - an indescribable feeling of joy! This is his first independent achievement, which will be forever imprinted in your memory.
- The first word - and here it is: "ma" - still very uncertain, but so long-awaited!
- The first failures - and next to you, his best friend, who always will not give up and will help solve any problem. That is how trust is born.
- First successes - pride in your child! Your support and the right installation did the trick. The child believes in himself, and he succeeds.
- The first dreams are so weightless, fragile, almost crystal. And again, next to my mother - the best partner, sharing all his desires, aspirations and goals.
- First feelings - and in this situation, the mom adviser will find the most correct words, act as a grateful listener and fulfill the function of a patron mentor.
Motherhood is a priceless gift
You can also add that this is an unread book. Each mother will find on her pages her answers on how to feel the joys of motherhood, endowed with a special meaning and magic. They will serve as the basis for the emergence of a strong, emotional and inaccessible connection to an outsider.
And remember, even the most experienced mothers sometimes make mistakes, and that's normal. Do not succumb to negative emotions, feel the joy and harmony that children give us. Have fun playing and developing with your baby. Be for him a teacher, friend, adviser, partner. And most importantly - appreciate the time spent together.