For each young couple, their wedding day will be remembered for a lifetime, it is filled with bright, joyful emotions and impressions. Preparing for it requires a lot of effort, time and, of course, financial investments. Nevertheless, you can arrange another small holiday, which will bring a lot of joy to future spouses. We are talking about such an old tradition as the groom's matchmaking.
Today, many do not pay much attention to this event. But this is a great occasion to arrange a real holiday, to provide parents of the bride and groom with the opportunity to get to know each other better and discuss important organizational aspects of the upcoming grand event. We also note that the groom's matchmaking has always been revered in the old days in our country, there were various beautiful ceremonies to which some of modern grooms also pay tribute. If you want to do something unusual, to depict a scene of ancient times with matchmakers, songs and dances, then you should write or find a ready-made script for matchmaking by the groom. But keep in mind that some unspoken rules must be considered.
If you decide to conduct the matchmaking of the groom according to all the canons and rules, then it is worth choosing someone from your close ones as a matchmaker. In the old days, the matchmaker used to choose an elderly relative of the groom or his godfather. Today, when all the rules are very simplified, they may be a friend or even a friend. According to the rules, the matchmakers were supposed to come to the bride’s house only after sunset, so as not to jinx it. Their main task was to inform the family of the future bride about the intention of the young man to marry her. Usually, specially prepared phrases in allegorical form were used for these purposes. An example of such a phrase, which makes the groom's matchmaking more original and gives it a touch of old traditions, is the following: “You have a product, we have a merchant”. Under the goods in this phrase means the bride, under the merchant - a young man offering a hand and heart.
In order for such a responsible event to be held at the proper level, you should carefully prepare for it and study the various scenarios. In this matter, a great responsibility falls on the shoulders of a person playing the role of a matchmaker - he must be cheerful, lively and energetic, because this largely determines how the groom's matchmaking ends. The script for this unusual solemn moment can be found ready.
For young couples who are indifferent to all sorts of ancient traditions and customs, a more modest and quiet matchmaking is suitable. A young man can simply come to the house of his chosen one and ask her parents for her hands. It goes without saying that going to the house of your lover is not necessary empty-handed. At a minimum, take care of a couple of bouquets of beautiful flowers: the first for your future bride, the second for her mother. After the groom is married, many couples today have an engagement party, at the end of which the young man solemnly asks for the hands of his beloved in the presence of friends and relatives.