A situation where a child does not want to go to kindergarten is faced by many parents. If this happens at the very beginning, you can understand - for some children, the adaptation period takes up to several weeks. But what if time passes, and your child still has no desire to go to kindergarten?
First you need to understand why the child does not want to go to kindergarten. The simplest and most obvious reason is the baby’s reluctance to get used to changing the situation and
daily routine. This is especially true for those children who are sent to kindergarten at the age of 4-5 years, when they are already thoroughly accustomed to home conditions. In addition, you need to understand that
the day regimen in kindergarten is built taking into account the average norm for a given age. The individual characteristics of the kids are almost not taken into account. To avoid such problems, experts recommend gradually transferring children to a regime close to kindergarten in about a month. So that the transition to a new schedule does not become stress for your child, you need to do this carefully, shifting everyday affairs for 10-15 minutes daily.
This advice can be attributed to nutrition. As practice shows, quite often a child does not want to go to kindergarten precisely because the food there seems to him tasteless, unusual. It is better to learn in advance about what your baby will be fed in the kindergarten, and introduce some dishes into his daily diet.
Most of the problems are usually caused by the “quiet hour”. Again, this is best done at home. It is necessary to accustom the child to the fact that after the morning games he needs a couple of hours to take a nap. At the same time, you should not go to bed with him, you should also exclude all unnecessary touches - it is unlikely that the teachers will pat each child in the group on the back. Many experienced mothers advise laying the baby with their favorite toy - a teddy bear or another, which you can then take with you to the kindergarten. In an unfamiliar environment, this native object will calm the baby and help him fall asleep.
The admission of a child to kindergarten is always a test for him. Leaving a cozy home environment, he first contacts with the outside world, his peers and strangers. Naturally, the first conflicts arise on this basis, for which it should also be prepared. Very often,
children are naughty and try to do everything possible so as not to go to kindergarten when they can’t make friends there. As a rule, children fall into already formed groups, where everyone else knows each other well. For some time, your child will most likely not be accepted into general games, will not be shared with him, and so on. The situation is aggravated also in cases where the child does not speak as well as the others. Your task is to help him. For example, you can find out which of the classmates he would like to make friends with and try to bring the children closer: give them an idea for a joint game, etc. You can chat with other parents, arrange a walk together, or go to, say, a circus. In such an environment, children will find a common language much faster.
Something else worth knowing. As a rule, both teachers and other children are extremely disapproving of those students who do not have basic self-service skills: they themselves cannot go to the potty, get dressed, and eat. Best of all, if you teach your child to do all this - then there will be much less unpleasant conflict situations with tutors and ridicule from peers, or not at all.
It also happens that the child does not want to go to kindergarten because of the incorrect behavior of the teachers. It is unlikely that the baby himself will tell you about everything that happens to him during your absence. However, it is very easy to notice something was wrong. If you hear from a child that the teacher is bad, he begins to be afraid of fairy-tale female characters - most likely, these thoughts are underlying. This is a difficult relationship with educators. You should go to kindergarten and talk with them, find out what is wrong. In no case should you attack the teachers with accusations and threats. Show that you are ready to cooperate and help them find mutual understanding with your child. However, if the situation does not improve in a few weeks, it is worth thinking about changing the educational institution.
And a few more tips for those who want to prepare a child for kindergarten. Firstly, you can not scare the baby with a kindergarten - otherwise he will never be able to become a safe and beloved place for the child. It is not necessary to discuss educators and everything that surrounds the baby in kindergarten, with him - it is likely that he will have the impression that he was surrounded by evil, bad people. If your
child cries every time you leave, you do not need to scold him and punish him - it is better to gently remind you that you will return for him. But you can’t deceive the baby either: if you leave him for a whole day or even for half a day, you don’t need to say that you will come very soon - so the baby will stop trusting you.
Keep calm and always talk about kindergarten with a positive. Let this mood be passed on to the child. Only then can he feel comfortable there.