Father-in-law is the father of the wife. In other words - that same character of jokes, the spouse of the mother-in-law. Accordingly, the father-in-law should be congratulated with an eye on the mother of the spouse, that is, the mother-in-law.
Jokes, of course - just folklore, but they did not appear from scratch. And in order to avoid the incidental situations mentioned in these funny stories, congratulations should be approached responsibly and prepared in advance.
What should be avoided?
Congratulations on the anniversary of the father-in-law can be any. However, both in a congratulatory speech and when choosing a gift, some nuances should be avoided. Do not show:
- familiarity;
- lack of respect;
- servility;
- flattery;
- indifference;
- familiarity.
Father-in-law is not a friend or classmate to his son-in-law. Even if warm relations have been established between men and if they share common interests, such as fishing, you do not need to do this publicly during the celebration of the anniversary, in the presence of guests.
Thus, congratulating the father-in-law from the son-in-law on the anniversary should, as it were, observe subordination. That is, you need to maximize the respect for the birthday, but at the same time do not lose your dignity.
Which genre to choose?
It is quite logical, at first glance, if the congratulation on the anniversary of the father-in-law sounds in prose, it will be as concise and restrained as possible. However, this version of the speech is too dry; clericalism blows from it. Therefore, a simple prosaic presentation needs to be diversified, made more emotional and personal.
Parables are a good option. Congratulations on the anniversary of father-in-law in prose, said in the Eastern or Caucasian style, not only sounds interesting, but also fully corresponds to the occasion.
A genre such as poetry is not entirely appropriate for congratulating one man with another. But this is only at first glance. Of course, reading poetry to the wife’s father during the presentation of the gift is not worth it. However, if you prepare a common humorous congratulation in verse with any of the guests, it will be very appropriate. Such a congratulation may well be prepared with his wife and mother-in-law.
How appropriate is humor?
Only personal qualities of people, their characters and established relationships determine what will be the congratulation from the son-in-law of the father-in-law for the anniversary. Funny skits, practical jokes or playful speeches are quite appropriate. However, they are only relevant when the birthday boy has a positive attitude towards such options for congratulations.
When considering the relevance of humorous speech, factors such as the age of the hero of the day and his sense of humor should be taken into account. What one person laughs at may not be completely understandable or even offensive to another. If there is a desire to joke, but in the absence of confidence in how to do it and whether it is worthwhile, you need to consult with your mother-in-law. Paradoxical as it may seem, the wife of the hero of the day is the only person who is able to give good advice when choosing a congratulation option.
How to congratulate fun?
Funny congratulations to the father-in-law on his anniversary are not only witty phrases in speech. A good option is a small raffle quest, in which the mother-in-law and spouse will participate.
Every person has a thing that he constantly carries with him. Someone always carries a handkerchief in their pocket. For someone, leaving the house is not possible without glasses. Others take a comb with them. You should find out what thing the hero of the day always has with him and build the rally on this.
For example, if this is a scarf, then a congratulatory should, on a plausible pretext, ask him for a birthday man. A trace of lipstick must be detected on the scarf. The mother-in-law takes care of this. While the jubilee, who does not understand anything, says something in his defense, the spouse or mother-in-law should check his pockets and find in them a note with some route. The more incomprehensible and bizarre it will be, the better. A picture of your favorite singer or actress will also work. Text is optional, just draw a plan. The mother-in-law should feel herself and insist on passing the route. This idea should be supported by the spouse. The son-in-law himself must show hesitation, demonstrating male solidarity, but ultimately agree with the women.
The essence of the rally is that in the place of the birthday person indicated in the note a mountain of gifts awaits and, of course, congratulations on the anniversary of the father-in-law with the presentation of a “purely male” presentation - cigars, alcohol, fishing tackle or something else.
How to congratulate without frills?
This question usually worries men who are self-sufficient, held, and often are in a higher social and material position than the hero of the day.
On the one hand, money and position make it possible to arrange any holiday for the spouse's father. On the other hand, there is always a fear that the hero of the day will be humbled and not grateful. But stinginess to show does not arise desire. If the gift issue is not particularly difficult to resolve by consulting with your spouse or mother-in-law, then the congratulatory speech causes real difficulties.
In fact, there is nothing difficult. It’s worth speaking in your own words, starting from the main points:
- show respect for the hero of the day;
- forget about yourself and talk only about the birthday man and his achievements, achievements, character traits and so on;
- thank the father in law.
It is worth considering and finding a reason to give thanks. You can thank the hero of the day for his daughter, who is a wonderful wife.
What to say at the table?
Congratulations on the anniversary of the father-in-law, pronounced in the Caucasian or Eastern style, will certainly please both the birthday man and his guests.
An example of a congratulatory feast:
“In a distant aul, among the great and snow-covered mountains, a man lived. He had a beautiful wife and a no less attractive daughter grew up. Every morning a man picked up a shovel and cleared a mountain trail. People asked him why he was doing this. The man answered them with a question: “Won't you all go down this path to the city?” People began to be ashamed and did not ask again. Until one day someone said: “Those who need to go to the city will take shovels themselves.” To which the man replied: “So I take it, because my daughter needs to study, and my wife needs to buy everything I need for the household.”
Years passed, and the daughter of a man married, leaving her home. The children of his neighbors also left their homes. But every morning he still went on the path and cleared it. Neighbors did not go to the city for a long time, and the beautiful wife no longer needed purchases for the household. People asked the man why he was doing this. The man smiled and told them the ancient wisdom that chicks always return to their nests, bringing other birds with them. The neighbors laughed.
One fine sunny morning, people in the village woke up from an unprecedented noise. They ran out of the houses and saw their children returning, walking with their grandchildren.
So let’s drink for the man who did not need to clear the road, because his children never left him! For you, dear (name)! Happy holiday! ”
Choosing a Caucasian toast parable, one should not forget that speech will be delivered for a particular person. In the event that the parable was liked, but its content does not sound entirely appropriate or ambiguous, it is worth correcting the text or finding another.
How to congratulate in your own words?
Congratulations to the father-in-law on the anniversary in your own words - the best option of all possible. It seems to many that making your own speech is difficult. Words will not be particularly vivid, and phrases will sound corny.
If you have such concerns, you should find a ready-made version of the congratulation and rewrite it, adapting it to a specific holiday.
Congratulations Option:
“Today is a significant, important and special day. Your birthday During the time that we are familiar with you, I do not get tired of learning from you the wisdom, intricacies of family life and many other equally important things. Today I want to thank you both for life lessons and for my beautiful wife.
I am in difficulty looking at you. What do you wish for? You have everything. So let this all be many times more. Happy Birthday!".
When speaking in your own words, you need not go too far with compliments. To do this, you should carefully rehearse your congratulations, preferably in front of a mirror, so as not only to hear words, but also to control facial expression.