To teach children to be polite is necessary from a very early age. It depends on how well the child will fit into modern society, how quickly he will master the business ethics that he will need in the future. The etiquette rules for children have been worked out by many psychologists, but it is their parents who have to present them.
What is etiquette?
This concept is a certain form of communication between people, due to which relations are established between them (friendly, romantic, family and others). Etiquette for schoolchildren in some educational institutions is taught from elementary grades, and some do not even have the slightest idea about such an important subject. In order for boys and girls in the future to be able to exist normally in society, parents must teach them this communication technique.
Has he outlived himself?
Looking at the manner of communication of modern adolescents, many psychologists are wondering if etiquette has not outlived itself in principle. However, they immediately twitch themselves, saying that it is impossible to build normal relations without it, since there will be a rollback (degradation) to almost primitive times. Etiquette rules for children can be divided into several groups:
- dining room (how to behave at the table);
- guest (how to behave at a party and with guests);
- speech (how to talk with peers, with adults, strangers);
- in public places (how to behave in public transport, park, store, theater, circus, cinema and others).
All this, parents should be vaccinated from an early age, while the brain most quickly assimilates information and behaviors. It is noteworthy that the etiquette for preschool children includes all the above items, just taking into account age characteristics.
2-3 years
During this period, the kids are just beginning their active communication through speech with the outside world. And precisely at this time, it is necessary to begin to explain to them the simplest rules of etiquette for children. First of all, the dining room. What is he like? A set of small, but rather significant rules that should be known to children.
Table etiquette
First of all, kids should not spit out food, spread it on the table, or throw it out of a plate. This is the most basic rule. Table etiquette for children 2-3 years old is not too extensive. It is enough that the kids will behave quietly and calmly at the table, will not talk while eating.
A culture of speech
Complicated words are difficult for children of this age, but this is not a reason to refuse them. Babies from an early age need to say "magic" words that will come in handy in the future. Namely:
- thanks;
- you are welcome;
- Hello hi);
- bye (bye);
- Bon Appetit;
- good night;
- good morning.
At the same age, it is worthwhile to teach a child not to be offended by trifles, not to complain about others. Depends on this how prepared he will be for a larger team (for school). Etiquette lessons for children 2-3 years old can be carried out in a playful way so that it is more interesting and easier for kids to perceive new information. For example, beat one or another situation with your favorite toys (the bunny said "thank you" to the bear for candy).
4-5 years old
At this age, children become more susceptible to new knowledge, as well as more open to verbal communication, because their vocabulary is already quite extensive. And the need for conversation and communication is increasing significantly. It is at 4-5 years old that you can begin to study "etiquette at a party" for children.
Guest rules for communication
Firstly, going to an acquaintance or friend, you need to take a good mood from home. Since children of this age rarely visit on their own, parents should monitor how much their child wants to go somewhere in principle. If the preschooler is upset or dejected, then nothing good may come of him.
Secondly, one cannot demand anything from the owner of the house. Parents must explain to the child that guests are not allowed to touch anything without permission. And even more so to demand! Here "magic" words may come to the rescue, with which the baby can ask what he wants from the owner of the house. Etiquette for preschool children implies that the child will be able to establish contact peacefully.
Thirdly, you canβt sit up late. Even if you really want to, even if not all the games have been replayed, and things have been redone. It is worthwhile immediately (even before going on a visit) to explain to the child that the owner needs to eat, wash and go to bed on time, regardless of your visit, which means that you need to go home when the parents decide.
If a friend came to your baby, then your owner should know how to behave:
- Share your toys and things.
- Do not offend or bully a guest.
- Treat sweets and treats.
- Entertain the guest so that he is not bored and sad.
The etiquette rules for children are not so complicated, however if you miss at least one of them, there is a risk of getting a selfish person and a priest instead of a gentle and friendly baby.
Primary school students
After the kindergarten is already left behind, the child experiences some stress when he enters primary school. However, the rules of etiquette remain unchanged for him. Moreover, they are only increasing. So, for example, at this age, expanded dining, speech and social etiquette becomes relevant.
How to be at the table?
In addition to what the child already knew, several new rules are added:
- Do not put your elbows on the table;
- start eating with the rest, and not earlier and not later than them;
- end the meal with words of gratitude, even if it wasnβt tasty;
- praise the food offered;
- to get up from the table with the rest or with the permission of adults.
Of course, many of the above items are not implemented even by the parents themselves. In this case, you need to start with yourself, and then teach the children. In addition, it is important not to teach the kids to eat in the room or in front of the TV, since there is a specially designated place for this (kitchen table).
What to do in public places?
Etiquette for schoolchildren prescribes the following rules of conduct:
- Give way to senior in transport.
- Skip women forward (relevant to boys).
- Open doors to ladies (relevant to boys).
- Pass people leaving the door, then just go in yourself.
- Do not poke a finger at anyone.
- Do not pick your nose, do not burp, do not fart, do not yawn in everyone's eyes (you can in a scarf or fist).
- When sneezing or coughing, cover your mouth with a palm or handkerchief.
- Do not litter on the street and in public places.
This is the minimum knowledge that parents should explain to the baby. The extent to which he will abide by these rules depends on how cultured he will grow, how well he will take root in modern society. Etiquette rules for children help to become a little kinder and more open to the outside world. Scientists noted that it is easier for polite people to get a job, start a family, achieve success, rather than asocial and uncultured.