The boss gave you, among others, some petty task, but have you completely forgotten about him? When doing a reconciliation, did you miss some data, as a result of which an error crept into your calculations? And what do you say in your defense? I forgot ... I'm scattered throughout life ... But in everyday life? An electric kettle, melted on a gas stove, or an unlocked apartment is still not so bad. Much more dangerous is not turned off the gas or iron. You can blame everything that happens on old age or fatigue, or simply that there is no time to think about trifles when more important thoughts occupy the head. Yes, and how to develop attentiveness, if you are already so ugly?
However, there is such a method. And if you are tired of spending half an hour every morning looking for your own things, then it's time to apply it. Look closely at some subject. Then close your eyes and imagine it, carefully remembering all the little things, even to the extent that it is surrounded by what other objects. If the situation permits, describe these memories verbally. For example: a glossy-bound book, thick, about 300 sheets. Lied heading down on a polished table, black. There was also a white napkin embroidered with red geometric patterns on the table, and there was a vase on the napkin ... ”etc. A good way to develop mindfulness is to ask someone close to you to change something in the decor of your room. Try to identify these changes.
Do you have the habit of just pretending to listen to your interlocutor, while at that time you are thinking about something of your own? Think about why this is happening. Your absent-mindedness can have three reasons: you know in advance what they will say and you are bored and uninteresting; you are distracted by the look of the person you are talking to, his voice, his manner of gesturing or extraneous noise; and finally, you are excited by something and these thoughts fill you all. How to develop mindfulness if you are an absent-minded person? Try to fully concentrate on the topic of conversation and distract yourself, emotionally abstract both from the personality of the speaker and from your attitude to the topic of the conversation. Ask clarifying questions from time to time, focusing on one or another aspect of the topic under discussion.
An effective means of developing memory and attentiveness even in old age, in retirement, is to start a business diary where you can write down all your plans and upcoming meetings. However, do not be “glued” to these notes. They made it up, re-read it half an hour later, immediately closed it and try to remember what was written in the exact sequence. In the evening, be sure to double-check yourself - what did you miss? Before you hand over the work done or send a letter, re-read it again - maybe you have forgotten something else?
Sometimes forgetfulness and distraction can be the result of stress and banal lack of sleep or fatigue. How to develop mindfulness in this case? Try to sleep at least seven to eight hours a day. When sedentary work once an hour, be sure to get up and do a little physical exercise - tilt your head back and slowly move it to the right and left. This will saturate a tired brain with oxygen and restore its working capacity. There are people who have more developed visual perception, and there are those who have a keener perception of hearing. If you belong to the first category, write down the information you heard in the form of abstracts, and if to the second, read the text aloud.
Little children are scattered, because they still cannot separate the main thing from the secondary, and therefore it is difficult for them to concentrate on something important and to be distracted from extraneous images or noises. How to develop a child’s attention so that he does not have difficulty learning at school? First, give him the beginnings of inner discipline so that the child, listening to information, can at least 15 minutes concentrate on it. This can be done in a playful way. First you need to explain to the baby what attention is. Then, if the baby already has a concept about flowers, give the task: find me a red color. Let him point to objects in red. Be sure to praise him if successful. After the age of five, games with drawings “Find 10 differences” will do.