The teenage period begins at about twelve years, and ends at eighteen. At the end of this stage, in all adolescents, as a rule, a personality is completely formed and the process of individuation is completed. The formation of their own super-ego, that is, each has its own set of taboos, norms and values. In the adolescent period, hormones are activated and biological transformation, which is the basis of all psychological changes.
This is a very turbulent time - pollutions and periods begin. All
age periods of child development have their own problems. In the future, they are activated and become a factor that then moves the child. This means that the main background will be a certain conflict corresponding to that stage of development in which the child had difficulties. You should know the more difficult the problems, the more they will affect the behavior of the teenager.
Due to the intense rearrangement of hormones, the teenager’s body begins to change. Sexual secondary symptoms develop , due to which the child begins to experience anxiety. In some cases, rejection of one's own body appears. The wrong shape of the ears or any pimple can be a tragedy. Sometimes the power of rejection is so strong that the idea of suicide may appear.
The adolescent period is a test given to every person. And the desire to fulfill unconscious desires is his main
driving force. This is manifested in general central masturbation. It combines the pleasures received from all phases. But the main thing is not the result, but participation. For this reason, often the child does not finish the job, thereby causing anxiety in the parents.
In adolescence , parental objects are de-idealized. This is necessary to form your own ego. If before the parent was God, now he is a stranger. Also, a teenager deidealizes parents morally. The opinion of friends becomes more significant and important than the opinion of parents. During this period, the negativity of the child protects him from passive surrender to his parents, who, in turn, are subjected to harsh criticism. Teenagers consider their parents boring and gray inhabitants.
Parents only have to put up with this behavior. But still they can make sure that the child is not influenced by bad company. Parents should choose a
"reference group" for the child (sports section, art school, music school, tour club, dance studio). The fluctuations between parents and peers will last long enough and the parent can only accept the presence in the life of a teenager of a group of peers, as well as the fact that their opinion and thoughts are much more important. Parental norms are gradually being replaced by their own, which the teenager produces through the experience of mistakes and trial. For this reason, the child needs to be given as often as possible to make these mistakes.
Not to lose the trust of your child in adolescence is the main goal of parents. After all, everyone was going through this difficult and critical time. Many adolescents during this period are prone to risky and rash acts, from which they should be tried to be fenced off whenever possible.