The history of mankind is full of terrible events. Torture, war, violence against children and women, neglect of the elderly are just some examples of the cruelty that accompanies the development of any society. People pay great attention to overcoming aggression, considering it one of the most important social problems. So, all kinds of psychosocial technologies are created that are aimed at preventing aggressiveness in people. Our country also has a problem of teenage cruelty. Prevention of aggressiveness of children is an objective necessity.
As the weakest and least protected members of society, babies are the first to become victims of abuse in various institutions and the family. After a short period of time, they pay more than that to society. From the article we learn what cruelty of adolescents is, and also how it can be corrected.
Cult of anger
There are many facts that confirm that embittered children sometimes grow up in perfectly normal families. Therefore, family well-being does not guarantee that the child will, if necessary, lend a helping hand to the needy. The cruelty of adolescent causes is mostly more profound. Often it arises due to school education. Not every teacher today will find out the true cause of the conflict between students in his class.
In a child, the character begins to manifest in early childhood. It is not difficult for a class teacher to identify which of the students is the leader, who is the “whipping boy,” and also who is often aggressive towards other people. Do not ignore the heated atmosphere in the classroom.
The sad results of how a student can be harassed by his classmates are known. You can not pretend that nothing happened. There is the possibility of timely intervention, even to save the life of a child. Many teenagers, feeling like outcasts, are on the verge of suicide. Cruel children begin to poison the child, which is absolutely unacceptable. This is a situation out of the ordinary. All pedagogical skills must be applied in order to correct this situation.
When a child sees that no one is paying attention to abuse, bullying becomes even more terrible. It is necessary to collect the classroom as often as possible for an explanatory conversation, and also try to find common ground and interests. Often such control gives positive results.
Specificity and causes of aggressiveness
The personality of the child is formed in the environment surrounding him, and not independently. Especially important in this is the role of small groups, where a difficult teenager interacts with other people. Initially, this concerns the family. Various authors highlight the types of dysfunctional families in which the brutality of teenage girls (and boys too) is manifested. These classifications complement, not contradict, sometimes repeating each other.
Combination of factors
It is worth noting that a combination of unfavorable psychological, biological, family and other social factors distorts the way of life of children. They become characterized by a violation with the people around them of emotional relationships. They fall under the great influence of a group of leaders, often shaping asocial social values. Lifestyle, adolescent culture, environment, social circle and style contribute to the development of deviant behavior.
A negative microclimate in different families causes the appearance of rudeness, alienation, hostility of some of the teenagers, as well as the desire to do everything against the will of the elders, to spite. This creates the prerequisites for the emergence of demonstrative disobedience, destructive actions and aggressiveness.
Family
Child psychologists and specialists around the world are trying to find out the reasons for the intensified aggression, which now affects teenage girls and boys. They come to the conclusion that the processes that contribute to the formation of the baby’s bitterness occur in the family in the first place. Oddly enough, the main reason for it is parental blind love.
If, for example, parents take care of and protect their child, while not seeing the personality in him and not appreciating his personality, a desire arises in his soul to prove and show that he is able to do something in his own way. And in this way, girls and teenage boys often commit aggressive acts towards people around them. In order to avoid this situation, the child needs to be given the right to choose, to provide him with personal space, without losing control.
No bans
The second dangerous result of parental blind love is permissiveness, which no argument can justify. The child has a feeling of impunity. Ignoring misconduct and the performance of any whims will not help build a normal relationship, as well as establish a relationship with other children. A little later, this will cause destructive and aggressive behavior, and the child will begin to be called a "difficult teenager."
Friends
Almost all children perceive criticism of their peers more sensitively than the arguments of their parents. The problem of “bad company” always remains acute - an aggressive and arrogant child is able to set an example and tone of behavior for a group of children, while the desire to conform to his style and internal dissonance only aggravate the cruelty of adolescents.
The way out of this situation will be the gradual development of new interests and values: it is necessary to “probe” what exactly the child is interested in - sports, dancing, creativity, etc. He will be able to devote more time to hobbies, make other friends there, which he needs only to be encouraged.
School
Almost every schoolchild faced at least once with the most common difficulties - misunderstanding of teachers or rejection of classmates. A child, and even more so a novice, can thus become an object of bullying and an outcast from other students for various reasons - he may be a follower of another religion, belong to a different nationality, be stupid, smart, with features of appearance. The brutality of adolescents knows no boundaries, they can unfairly deal with peers only because of their dissimilarity to everyone else.
For the same reason, they may be attacked by some teachers. The scandalous sensational film "School" by Valeria Gai Germanicus just tells about the difficulties of today's secondary education institutions.
Internet, television
The cruelty of adolescents has grown to frightening proportions in the XX-XXI centuries. Experts see the reason for this in the accessibility and distribution of the Internet and television. The most exciting and popular films necessarily contain scenes of violence that greatly affect the children's unformed psyche. Various computer games involve killing and battles to win. Videos that show debauchery, irresponsibility and rudeness are freely available on the Internet.
Our children got bored "just" fighting - it is imperative to remove it on the phone, and then put the video on the network. What to do with it? The child’s attention should be switched to other, constructive activities, as well as arguments in defense of the fact that cruelty and aggressiveness are not “cool” at all.
Difficult teenager: revealing
Prevention of cruelty in a teenage environment begins with identifying the emotional and mental state of each child by questioning students. Using this procedure, you can find out how often a teenager has to deal with an unfair or cruel attitude to himself, and other issues.
Child is a victim
To identify this problem, you must carefully monitor the behavior of the teenager when he comes from school. Attention should be paid to minor, slightest changes in his usual behavior. Each mother will see if suddenly the child has no desire to go to school, that he sometimes comes in torn things, his appetite is gone. These are signs of a problem. You should talk heart to heart with him. Of course, bringing him to such a conversation will be very difficult. Not every family has a trusting relationship. From an early age, one should show his daughter or son that parents are the best and most reliable friends.
In a child’s conflict with peers, finding a way out together will be much easier. If he does not want to share, you must try to be friendly and careful. Information should not be pressurized. Demonstrate to him that you are on his side completely and completely. Probably, in this case, he considers it necessary to ask for help, to open up.
In this case, the child fears that he will only aggravate his difficult situation with such revelations with loved ones. He believes that the desire to tell everything to parents is an indicator of a weak nature. You should convince him that this is not so.
Together you can choose an adequate solution, find the right way out of the conflict. Do not scoff at children's problems, claiming that this is all nonsense. A vulnerable young soul can be greatly offended by such an attitude.
Recently, news sites have literally been full of various materials about cases of increased aggression in adolescents. Moreover, the abundance of computer games with various elements of violence and violence does not reflect in the best way on the psyche of the child. A large number of teenagers after being beaten by classmates tried to commit suicide. In addition, such scenes, as mentioned above, are filmed on camera and laid out for public viewing on the Internet.
How to avoid aggression?
Teenage and child cruelty has already become a definite social phenomenon. At present, the correction of adolescent aggressive behavior involves the involvement of all public institutions. In this case, you need to start with the family, continue in the kindergarten and school, then attract sections and circles, and finish already with universities and work collectives.
It is worth noting that violence using particular cruelty is a widely used concept in criminal law. Consequently, adolescents, especially those who have reached the age of criminal responsibility, can be punished for their misconduct.
But the majority of violent adolescents are not sociopaths and sadists, which means that they are able to improve without medical and correctional institutions. They need the support and help of adults, parents and teachers in the first place, then mentors and trainers, conscious senior comrades.
Of course, it is not necessary to seriously punish seriously the whole group who have committed violence against other children, but only their leader, especially if he is a clear sociopath or sadist.
Serious preventive discussions should be held with other children and their parents, as well as taken over by the authorities.
In addition, to improve the emotional and psychological family climate, to help adolescents and children to overcome psychological internal problems, it would be good to take a family counseling course with an experienced psychologist.
And finally ...
Adolescents need adult guidance, which should have authority, charisma, and inner strength. In archaic societies, it’s not without reason that the brightest and most interesting people have always been promoted to the role of mentors. But now the pedagogical sphere does not always cope with this task. Fortunately, there are still leaders of circles, coaches, and teachers with the qualities of a mentor, only there are fewer of them.
It is worth noting that aggression is not necessarily a bad thing. It provides an opportunity to defend their territory, offspring, fight for life, achieve goals, overcome difficulties. When aggression functions normally, it works like water, the twisting millstone of life.