In a dry scientific language, one can easily answer the question of what adolescence is. This is the age between childhood and growing up. But in life it is sometimes very difficult to draw a clear line in the place when the time for dolls and cars ends and an adult independent life begins. Perhaps, for mom and dad this age will never come.
How to let go of a child?
Current habits and methods of education are such that it is considered normal if a child lives in a family even while studying at the institute, although a few decades ago teenagers were actually sent to educational institutions by children aged 11-12. In tsarist Russia, the term "lad" was born, which most often referred to young men who left their own family as students to various artisans, clergy, and nobles.
But the beloved sons and daughters of their parents are eager to show their independence, independence, clearly demonstrate with all their behavior what adolescence is. The difficulties of adolescence is a need that every person needs to live and overcome. At this age, cardinal changes in psychology, physiology. And sometimes it’s very difficult for yesterday’s child to independently realize and understand all these transformations.
What age limits does adolescence cover?
What is adolescence, contemporaries are quite difficult to understand. In the twenty-first century, it is customary to say “teenager” or, in a Western manner, “teenager”. Translation from English can literally be perceived as the age from 13 to 19 years ( teen - the age of a person in this framework, age - age). This term has taken root and is widely used both in the scientific literature and in everyday life. He directly characterizes adolescence, his age. But at the same time, Western psychologists moved away from a clear classification and equalization of all children under one comb. The period after childhood for someone can begin at 11 years and end at 19, and someone will start to grow closer to 13-14 years old, while the transitional age itself may not last longer than 15-16 years. Everything is purely individual. Moreover, in girls these processes are earlier and a little easier than in boys.
Challenges of puberty
The psyche of girls is more stable, they are less likely to give in to a rebellious mood, possibly due to communication with their mother, who really delves into their problems and experiences. The boys begin to feel changes in the body, they realize that they are becoming adults, but dependence on the will of relatives presses and confuses. All this can lead to isolation, detachment, conflicts both at home and at school, on the street.
In general, conflict situations directly make it clear what adolescence is, reveal all its problems, imperfections in education, complexes, and the level of stability of the psyche of a teenager. It is rare for anyone to avoid family problems during this period. It is difficult for parents to realize that their beloved child ceases to be a child, you need to learn to listen to it, lower the level of control and gradually release it. The role of a full and authoritarian manager is the mistake that will inevitably lead to quarrels and misunderstanding between loved ones.
Features of communication of adolescents with peers, teachers, parents
The differences between adolescence and childhood outside the family and school, among peers, friends and foes are also very clearly traced. This is the age of personality formation and maximalism, which is characterized by idealization and polarity in thinking. If children perceive everything quite literally, then in adolescence the first attempts and skills of making logical conclusions begin. Teenagers are trying to gain a place under the sun, the first steps are taking to consolidate their status in society, the struggle for leadership, authority.
Changing with the advent of adolescence and a look at the school, teachers. If before the teacher and his words were not questioned, now the challenge begins, defending his personal opinion.
During adolescence, parents need to pay a lot of attention to their child, learn not only to listen to him, but also to listen and consult. Deafness to the opinion of the undergrowth can lead to irreparable consequences that will affect the whole future life of both the child and his family.