Children are happiness and the flowers of life, but, unfortunately, some parents are forced to abandon their children, for various reasons, immediately after their birth. Fortunately, such children have the opportunity to be adopted and become members of full and loving families.
Reasons and features of abandonment of children
Our country has a special procedure and specific reasons for abandoning children immediately after their birth. This process has one feature.
From a legal point of view, a mother cannot abandon a child. She does not lose her parental rights, but temporarily leaves the newborn in state care or agrees to the adoption of the baby by other people.
The reasons for this act may be different. Often financial difficulties become the main obstacle to happy motherhood.
Abandoned children in maternity hospitals are often left alone due to congenital illnesses and disabilities. Young parents are afraid to take responsibility for raising such a child or understand the entire financial burden that will have to be borne. In most cases, such children remain in the maternity wards.
Another common reason for rejection is pressure from relatives, for example, if the child was born out of wedlock. The pressure of a man who does not want to become a father can also affect the mother’s decision to refuse.
Failure Registration
If such a difficult decision was made, then a certain process of registration should be carried out by both father and mother. Refusal of the child entails some legal procedures. However, they do not take much time and are held within the walls of the maternity ward.
First, a woman should write a statement to abandon the child. A sample of such a document should be in the maternity ward. The application is written in the name of the head of the department in a free form, but with personal data and the data of the child.
After the head of the maternity ward receives an application, he is obliged to notify the guardianship authorities.
The father of the child also has the right to his upbringing, so the refusal of fatherhood on a voluntary basis provides for the writing of the same statement.
If a man is divorced from the mother of the child, but three hundred days have not passed since the divorce, then he is still automatically considered the father of the newborn and must write a waiver.
The fate of the child after the failure of the parents
Abandoned children still have a chance to return to their biological mom and dad. Parents of the child are given 6 months after refusal to solve their difficulties and take the child home. If this does not happen, then the father and mother are deprived of parental rights in a judicial proceeding.
In any case, after discharge from the maternity hospital, the child enters the pediatric ward until he reaches 28 days of age.
While the child is in the hospital, he is fully examined, and care is provided by medical staff and volunteers. It is worth noting that caring hands are always in short supply, and volunteers are especially valuable in such situations.
If pathologies and diseases are not found in the child, he is transferred to the baby's house.
It is worth noting that in the adoption of such a child, priority is always given to relatives of biological parents.
Anonymous childbirth and abandonment
There are cases when a woman does not provide any documents. In such a situation, she is placed in a special department and does not contact the other women in labor.
If the mother left the child in the hospital and just left him, then the guardianship authorities are informed about this, and the child can be adopted immediately. The name and surname are assigned to him during adoption, if it occurs quickly. In the case when the child cannot be quickly transferred to the adoptive parents, the name of the child is given to the baby in the house.
In the birth certificate of such children, a dash is put in the column about mother and father.
Life in a baby house
For the education of orphans under the age of three years in our country, baby homes are provided. Breasts in the baby's home are immediately after pediatrics, at the age of about one month.
Care for young children is carried out by employees together with volunteers. This place serves as a kind of adaptive base, immediately after which unmatched children end up in an orphanage.
The content in this institution resembles a kindergarten. All children are divided into groups, they conduct developmental classes, psychologists and pediatricians work.
While the child is in this institution, he is more likely to get into a foster family, as young children are more likely to be adopted.
In order to take a child from a baby’s or maternity home, you need to contact the guardianship authorities and familiarize yourself with the database of refuseniks.
Information about babies for adoption. Where to look
As soon as information about the child abandoned by the parents arrives at the guardianship authorities, a case is started on him, the registration of the refusal proceeds further to the relevant authorities.
While refuseniks in maternity hospitals are sent to the hospital and are there, employees of the clinic and maternity hospital draw up a questionnaire, where they enter all the data of the child, information about the state of health, a description of the appearance and development, attach a description and a photo.
These profiles are stored in a common database of refuseniks, which is provided to potential guardians. A couple who has decided to adopt, can get acquainted with the children in the database, and then after providing the necessary documents, gets acquainted with them personally.
Charitable foundations that support the homes of the baby have the same base. They can also help future parents advise on the process of custody or adoption.
Why newborns are adopted more often
It's no secret that it is small children who often find a new home. This is due to many features.
Firstly, babies, according to potential parents, are easier to adapt. They have not yet become accustomed to the foundations of the old family, relatives, have not acquired habits and have not got used to the role of an abandoned child.
The next point is a lower risk of psychological trauma. The little child has not yet realized that he is abandoned by his parents, and he has no problems associated with this.
In addition, newborns are easier to raise, immediately instilling in them the values of their family.
Another important reason for the adoption of infants is the desire to go with the child the whole life path. This is especially important for parents who are not able to give birth for medical reasons. If the secret of adoption is kept, then the child may not suspect that he is step-mother.
How to take a child from the hospital for adoption
If you decide to adopt, then you need to be prepared for some nuances.
Many couples want to take a newborn child, so there is a queue for abandoned children in maternity hospitals.
The first thing to do is to contact the guardianship authorities with a statement about the desire to adopt a child. After that, a consultation will be appointed, during which all the features and subtleties of the process will be explained, a list of necessary documents will be issued.
Usually this is a certificate of health status of spouses, a certificate of income, property, characteristics of the place of residence and work, certificate of marriage, photocopies of passports, birth certificates and other documents.
Only after providing the entire list of securities can you familiarize yourself with the database of refuseniks and get to know the children personally. If future parents want to take care of only a newborn baby, they are put in a queue and reported about abandoned children in maternity hospitals as soon as this information reaches the guardianship authorities.
The process of collecting documents for the adoption of a child from a baby’s house will be the same.
Adoptive Requirements
Of course, in order to be able to become the parent of a small child, it is necessary to undergo a serious selection. Guardianship authorities must be sure that the child will be comfortable in the new family.
The first thing that should be possible parents of the refusenik is a permanent job or income from entrepreneurial activity. The amount of income should not be lower than the subsistence level. Parents must be financially able to provide their child with everything they need.
Housing must meet all the requirements for the maintenance of the child. Parents should have the means and conditions for a full and comfortable stay of the child. A separate room, a bathroom, hot water, space heating, as well as cleanliness - these are the main conditions for a child.
The couple should not be judged, and the characteristics of the place of residence and work should be exclusively positive. Bad habits should also be absent. It is necessary to confirm that the future parents had no problems with drugs, alcohol, and no mental deviations were observed.
In case of adoption of the baby, it is necessary to confirm the availability of free time to care for him.
Spouses should have a normal state of health, which must be confirmed by medical certificates.
Compliance of candidates with all requirements will be carefully checked by the guardianship authorities during personal visits, interviews and inspections.
Guardianship or adoption
There is a big difference between the two.
If a couple takes custody of a child, their rights will be limited. For example, the child’s property, if any, remains with him. You can become a guardian only if the child is under the age of fourteen, after this age guardianship is issued.
Another feature in this case is that the guardians will receive certain payments from the state, but also be responsible to the guardianship authorities, which will control the family throughout the entire guardianship period.
In the case of adoption, the child becomes a full member of the family along with blood children. The procedure for processing documents in this case is more responsible and more complicated, so the process lasts much longer. In addition, the allowance, which is due in the case of guardianship, will not be paid during adoption.
The moral and psychological difference is the fact that during adoption the child does not feel like a stranger. He understands that his family fully accepts him as a native. In the case of a newborn, only adoption can guarantee the secrecy of information that he is adoptive.
Summary
Refusing a child is a difficult decision, which is sometimes very difficult and painful. However, the problems of biological parents should not prevent a child from finding a loving family.
As of 2015, in the homes of the baby there were about 15 thousand children awaiting their adoptive parents.
To date, the process of adopting a young child is very complicated and long. This is due to attempts to achieve the most comfortable conditions for the further life of the child. Parents must go through many interviews and tests before they can bring their child home.
Because of the desire to raise children from birth, the lineup for refuseniks in maternity hospitals is very large and is moving slowly. However, this does not stop couples.
A child’s happy laugh is definitely worth waiting for, going through interviews, collecting all the necessary papers and creating comfortable conditions.