There are no naughty children, just as there are no perfectly obedient children. Every child behaves differently in different “proposed circumstances”. And this is normal. Time, place, people with whom the child interacts, and many more diverse factors can turn any angel into a devil, and vice versa.
A child is always naughty for some reason, and not just. The adult's task is to figure out the reason for children's vagaries. Of course, it is necessary to consider the age of the child. The disobedience of a three-year-old peanut is completely different from the “pose” of a teenager, but they are based on one thing - the desire to attract attention, to show character.
From the point of view of psychology, the problems of raising children are exacerbated in certain stages of life. Naughty children can justifiably behave ugly just a few times in their lives. This refers to the so-called crises of 3, 7 and 13 years.
At 3 years old, the individuality of the child begins to show quite rapidly. During this period, it is very important to understand that the baby’s behavior is now due not so much to his personal qualities as to natural human characteristics. During the crisis of three years , the child forms the position of "I myself", in the world that sounds like "I do not want, I will not, no."
This is a difficult period, and not only for parents who are shocked by the transformation of their flexible child into an uncontrollable imp. It is not easy for the three-year-old himself, who still does not know how to cope with his emotions and defends his rights by all available means.
It is possible to significantly facilitate each other's life by adopting the rules of the child’s game. That is, it is better to agree that he is an adult and has the right to solve some harmless problems, for example, what color to wear socks. At the same time, in some fundamental matters, an adult must be firm and not allow the child to manipulate himself.
At the age of 7, the next difficult period begins. A child goes to school, enters a new environment for him, begins to actively communicate with peers. A new authority arises in his life - the first teacher. You need to prepare for the fact that "Maryivanna" will become for your child the most intelligent person on the planet, her word is the law, and you can argue with your parents. Naughty first-graders now live according to completely different laws: if they are praised in the class, their importance will grow, and if mom kisses her treasure at all, they may laugh. And again, parents have to accept the rules of the game - you need to “keep the mark” at school, and at home you must give him your kindness and warmth, which the child still needs very much.
When a child turns 13 years old, parents understand that all previous problems were not problems at all. Adolescence is a “strength test” of the parental nervous system. This crisis is very reminiscent of the philosophy of three-year-olds "I myself", only on a different level, now naughty children can easily raise their voices, slam the door, inflate a scandal from nothing and so on. What to do during this period? First of all, be patient. To be a support for the child, the main and most faithful friend, waistcoat, wizard - anyone, if only he felt that his parents love him, despite all his tricks. As children grow older, they distance themselves more and more from their parents, and it is very important to be able to maintain true intimacy.
Naughty children, no matter what age they are, are just children. They all also need love, care and protection. If at some point in life parents cannot cope on their own, it is better not to bring matters to serious conflicts, but to turn to a specialist. A psychologist for a child can become, if not an adviser, then a “tip”, will help to understand yourself and, as a result, will help improve the atmosphere in the house.