These people do not reckon with anyone's opinion, are rude and rude to their loved ones, they listen to intolerable music and dress, ignoring moral standards. They have problems not only in study and communication, but also with drugs, alcohol, promiscuous sex. These people never repent of their deeds and can bring a normal adequate person to a nervous breakdown. They are difficult teens.
Unfortunately, now many families know firsthand what it is. The upbringing of difficult teenagers is complicated by the fact that they do not want to listen to parents, teachers and just not indifferent people. Moral teachings and pathetic attempts to influence such children fail and do not bring any result. Difficult teenagers have their own opinions about everything, they are not familiar with the feeling of shame, and they reckon only with their desires. Unfortunately, they control their parents, and not vice versa, as it should be in the civilized world. But more recently, these children were the pride and support of their parents, they were loving and kind, fair and honest. Why does this happen in their lives and what kind of work with difficult teenagers can bring at least some results?
Parents often do not think that it is they who are responsible for the fact that their glorious and sweet child suddenly turned into an immoral creature. Difficult teenagers become so, first of all, because of mistakes in their education. When parents, making demands on the child, rush to one extreme or another. That is, they either allow a lot and do not require anything, or vice versa do not allow much, but require a lot. In addition, parents should understand that they need to communicate with the child commensurate with his age. You should not consider him constantly small and understanding nothing or an adult with life experience.
In the pursuit of material well-being, mothers and fathers often forget about the warmth and friendship that a child is waiting for. In this case, he has no choice but to give a damn about everyone and everything. Be sure to be consistent in education. The family should have clear rules of praise and censure. And mom and dad ideally promote one model of education, rather than pulling a blanket each in its own direction.
Difficult teenagers want to get parental attention, which they were deprived of, or, on the contrary, received so much that now they are all small and small. These children, with all their appearance and behavior, show that they have the right to their own opinion and life path.
It is impossible to surround children with excessive attention and make family idols of them, as well as not to devote time to them at all, to welcome polite, cool relations in the family. Often difficult teenagers turn away from the whole world because of constant conflicts at home, parents in this case cannot find a common language among themselves, they are constantly unhappy with each other.
Children are mirrors of parental error. Dragging a child to a psychologist and hoping that he will cope with the problem on his own is pointless. You need to acknowledge your mistakes and tune in to working together to restore normal, friendly and respectful relationships with children. In no case should you transfer all responsibility for the child’s complex behavior to him alone. It is often very difficult to force yourself to believe that your son or your daughter have become unsociable boors because of your mistakes. But as soon as you manage to do this, a professional psychologist will be able to save not only a teenager, but also your entire family. Be sure to contact a professional, do not hope that your exhortations and moralizing will be able to change something. It is precisely the model of relationships in the family that needs to be fundamentally changed, and then the communication of parents and children can become sincere, sincere and honest.