You have been walking towards this happy moment for so long, bearing a fruit, giving birth, and now, when this difficult period is over, you will finally relax and enjoy the full measure of communication with the baby! So you came from the hospital and are ready to start a new quiet peaceful life. But there it was! Peace is just not observed! The little man requires constant attention, love and care, and you no longer have time for anything else. Now this is the center of your universe. Both parents and grandparents revolve around the baby, like planets around the sun.
It turned out that returning home was by no means the beginning of prosperity, as you dreamed about, and life did not return to your usual rut. For from now on, a new member has appeared in your family, to whose schedule all household members will be subordinate. Feeding according to the regimen, walking, swimming, diapers and diapers - all this without a trace takes the mother’s time and in such a way that there’s not a minute left for herself. And if the child is still restless, does not sleep for long and often wakes up, whimpers and needs attention ... And already in the first month of the baby’s life, his mother begs the question: “When does the child feel better?”
Problems with the baby in the first months
Naturally, all the hardships of communicating with a newborn fall on the shoulders of a young mother. After all, they have an inextricable connection with the baby and he always feels when the nurse is not nearby. It would seem that in a couple of months you were able to enter a new rhythm of life, and the baby more or less adapted to other living conditions, and now you can spend a little more time on yourself to at least get enough sleep. But no, again a problem. Establishment of the digestive system of the baby begins - bloating and colic, restless nights and days, early rises and late going to bed. And against this lively background, the mother’s doomed mental question comes up to heaven: “Will it become easier with the child?” So wisdom and a deeper awareness of the role of parents in the life of a baby comes to us.
Mom begins to realize that caring for a child is forever. With the kid overcoming each new milestone, new troubles and experiences will be added to your life, and if you do not already build the right behavior pattern in the first stages, then taking care of the baby will just enslave you. Experienced people only smile condescendingly when they hear a fairly familiar phrase from freshly baked moms: "When does it get easier with a small child?" And young parents will always ask this absolutely natural question, as the first reaction to a sharp change in life priorities.
With the arrival of this warm, beloved little man into your family, your whole life is turned over and aims solely at meeting the needs of this touching and completely defenseless childish organism. It is impossible to prepare for this in advance, so you have to reorganize along the way. The daily regimen of a young mother changes dramatically, all her habits and preferences are no longer of primary importance and she has to eat so as not to damage the baby, take a walk at a time when it is recommended by doctors. Time is sorely lacking, not only to please her husband, but also for herself. Chronic fatigue is the condition that in the first months of a child’s life dominates all the feelings of his parents.
The first month
And when will it become easier with the child? The first month and a half refers to the neonatal period, when young parents, who are still inexperienced, learn to live in new conditions in the same way as a baby masters the environment that is unknown to him. The universe has narrowed for them to the size of their own apartment, where the main concerns of the baby are concentrated. Endless diapers, diapers, bathing, visits to the clinic and visits to the foster sister, compulsory walks and motion sickness - all this is so tiring. Even experiencing great love and tenderness for her child, sometimes the thought slips through my head about when it will become easier with a newborn child. After all, one wants to at least have a little rest.
In its development, the baby goes through certain stages of life, which his parents follow along with him. Which one is lighter and less labor intensive? The first month could be considered as such, if not for the difficulties with the adaptation of both the child and the parents. At this time, the baby for the most part sleeps and wakes up only in order to eat. But this is ideal when nothing bothers the child and he is happy with everything. In practice, it turns out that the baby constantly cries, calming down only in the arms of the mother, with her breast so attractive for children. How can you take your time here if a woman is already falling from lack of sleep and powerlessness? But she still needs a lot of strength for other, more complex stages of the formation of the child.
What to do to a coiled mom?
As time goes on, and the worries and possible problems associated with the baby’s health do not diminish, the situation in the house can become extremely hot. And so involuntarily, along with a sigh, the young mother is again on her lips - well, when is it easier with the child? The woman does not have the strength to constantly stay awake, giving all her energy to the baby. Try to pull yourself together, adapt to the rhythm of the baby’s life. Rest with him - nothing bad will happen if you occasionally give yourself the opportunity to just get enough sleep without doing any of your household duties. A worn out and upset parent is not the best option for the baby. He needs maternal love and affection, her intimacy and warmth, everything else for the baby is not yet important and does not matter at the emotional level. Use the lull period to spend more time with the child and not make him nervous again.
Intestinal colic. When will they stop?
Already from a three-week age, intestinal colic can begin, which is very worrying for babies during the period of establishing the digestive system. Sometimes this phenomenon passes by, but most often colickies, who have to endure these excruciating pains, and their parents, who watch the torment of their little ones, get it from colic. At the same time, neither tummy massages nor manual motion sickness can completely rid this tiny little one of unbearable sensations. But when will it become easier with the child in this regard? This question can be answered. Usually colic goes to three to four months of age, sometimes it can last up to six months - depending on how quickly the crumb body can establish the digestion process.
Crawl period
Time goes by, the child is growing up safely. The colic has already passed, interest in toys has arisen, the daily regimen has improved, and there is already the opportunity to plan our actions. The kid is already making attempts to independently study the world - he is turning over to his tummy, trying to crawl behind the necessary subject. It would seem that the moment has come when it becomes easier with the child. But we again missed. For the period from timid attempts to roll over, when you can rest a bit physically, to confident crawl passes very quickly. And now you need to follow the inquisitive baby so that he does not hit or grab something forbidden, instantly straightening his find in his mouth.
The period of cognition of the world
Starting from six months, when the manual period was left behind, up to a year, the presence of the mother next to the baby is even more necessary. Meanwhile, she continues to dream of a time when it will become easier with her child. Up to a year, as you might guess, rest for a woman does not occur. By this period, the severity of new impressions passes, when the baby is in full swing exploring the territory accessible to him and requires the inevitable presence of the parent to look. He can already be in a crib or playpen for some time, playing with his toys, and Mom can spend a little time cooking, washing or cleaning. Many parents say that after a year it became easier with the child.
Walking stage
However, you won’t be able to completely relax, the next step is the walking stage, when your fluffy chick managed to independently climb the weak legs and take the first step. The child's desire for movement is fraught with bruises and constant falls for him until he learns to stand firmly on his legs and balance well with his hands. And now mother again has to dream about when it will become easier with her baby. In the reviews of the women they write that from now on your child has become available an even larger territory and all of it needs to be carefully examined. And since the legs are still not strong enough, mom will have to drive him by the handle. So the woman again did not receive the desired freedom and spends the day in close company with her little peanut.
So at what age does it become easier for a child, if at one and a half, and a half, and even more so at two, does the baby continue to need his mother’s affection and her constant vigilance? After all, the baby still does not know how to play independently or to focus his attention for a long time on any object. But after 1.5 years, the turning point has already been outlined when it will become easier with the child. After all, he already knows how to move independently, eat, many already use the pot with might and main to cope with their natural needs.
Baby one and a half - two years
At the age of one and a half to two years, the child can be explained what exactly the mother expects of him. He is already trying to express his thoughts with the help of words and can explain to adults that he is in pain and where exactly the problem is concentrated. So mom is much easier to navigate with the cause of crying baby. So we have reached the time when it will become easier to get along and explain with the child. But along with the children their problems grow, so do not relax, parents, and be prepared to successfully overcome them with your baby as he grows up. And so that the period when mom dreams of relief is easier and calmer, you should learn to simplify your life and give yourself, therefore, the necessary minutes of rest.
In order for the most difficult period in the baby’s life to be as comfortable as possible for mother and child, you should cultivate the right attitude to your needs and establish good mutual understanding with your child.
Do not sacrifice yourself!
Do not go on about your sacrifice. She will not bring happiness to you or your baby. A joyful and energetic woman, a tender wife and a caring mother are much more preferable for him than a tired and faded woman who has lost her own individuality and brightness in her self-denial. Sacrificial trends drive away. Understand, as an axiom, that only a family will be happy for the child, in the center of which the woman-mother-wife accumulates happiness, love and tenderness, and generously gives them to her loved ones.
Understanding and Healthy Living
From the youngest years, do not lose the thread of understanding and complete trust of your baby, be not a strict judge, but a wise friend who will always give useful advice and help solve children's problems. Then, even in older adolescents, the child will not be afraid to entrust his mother with his problems and sorrows.
Follow the proper nutrition and physical development of the child. After all, nothing complicates the life of parents so much as the illnesses of children. Walk more with your baby, take him to rest to the sea or mountain forests, so that the body is sufficiently saturated with oxygen and works without failures.
Psychologists advice
Psychologists give parents such advice on relationships with children:
- Never expect any future dividends from your motherhood - just live in harmony and joy. Enjoy your family and your life around and never reproach the child for giving their life to him, otherwise instead of gratitude you will get complete rejection.
- Find joy in communication with the baby even if you are tired, talk to him kindly, and his smile will be your reward for all your sacrifices and sleepy nights - it’s better to be happy than to be angry. Attract more positive things to yourself - drink your favorite coffee, meet with a friend, make a manicure or eyebrows - all these minor joys can make your mother happy, and with it the whole family.
- If the baby does not succeed, do not despair, the time will come, he will master the necessary skills sufficiently and will cope with the task perfectly. He will learn to walk, speak, read, write, and everything that is supposed to be able to be at his age, just do not doubt his success and disassure him of this.
- Seeing that the baby is almost ready to begin to crawl, act on the lead - get on your knees and crawl along its entire route, marking sharp corners and dangerous places to protect its first creeps.
Conclusion
Always remain for your child the kindest and beloved mother, whose heart is open to the golden child. In this case, both you and the baby will not face such an acute phase of the relationship, which was discussed above.