Pregnancy can be both planned and unplanned. Russian women are given the choice: either to keep the baby, or to terminate the developing pregnancy, but only at an early date, before the expiration of twelve weeks. To give birth or not, each expectant mother must decide for herself. Not looking at the opinions of neighbors, acquaintances, colleagues, or whether her husband (or the man with whom she has a relationship) wants this child. Indeed, in any case, all the burden or joy of the decision will rest with the woman. Only then she will have to experience the all-consuming joy of motherhood or the grief that she will never have children after an abortion.
Happiness or sadness?
Question: “Maybe I'm pregnant ?!” - each woman is asked. And more than once or twice in my life. It is impossible to describe in words the whole gamut of feelings at the time when it arises. For some, this is a long-awaited hope, for someone - unexpected happiness and joy. Someone is at a loss, considering a test with two stripes. Someone is horrified, thinking about the problems that will come.
“I don’t know whether to give birth or not” - so many women can say to themselves. Everything seems so easy and simple when a woman is in a happy expectation of a child, because with great sympathy she even refers to thoughts about him. These feelings are light and pleasant. Even if the baby “turned out” unexpectedly, the confusion goes away after only a few days, and it is replaced by a feeling of limitless peace with a slight admixture of excitement about whether everything will go well.
But what if the thoughts on the head of a pregnant woman are joyless and pessimistic? Of course, you cannot blame those women for whom the appearance in the life of a child is a huge problem. Each person has the right to his own choice, expression of his opinion and decision-making, no matter how it seemed to others. How to decide whether to give birth or not? Only a woman herself can decide what is important and necessary for her in this segment of her life. This is a matter of life circumstances and morality.
Is a baby needed if a pregnancy is not planned?
In the lives of many women, there are times when the news of an unplanned pregnancy becomes simply terrifying. And only with age can one learn to understand one very simple thing: everything that is given from above is given not just and not at all as a problem. We get only what will bring us joy over time. Another question is how not to turn this joy into a nightmare with your own pessimism and thoughts, when the only question comes to the fore: "I doubt whether to give birth or not?"
We must learn to live positively and to find something good even in the most terrible and terrible things at first glance. The main thing is to have a desire for it.
No need to talk now about the situation when the pregnancy comes at last, and not suddenly. Because in this case everything is clear - the whole family is happy and is waiting for the pink-cheeked little one.
But what if there is no loving man nearby in such a situation, the expectant mother understands that she simply does not have enough money, and life with the birth of a child will turn into a swamp in which her best years will pass?
When an unplanned pregnancy occurs, to give birth or not to give birth, the woman is quite worried. If there is no husband, then this can not be called a problem, unless with a big stretch. Than such a man in pants, then it’s better then no. A woman deserves the best, and the baby will never be an obstacle in order to build his personal, ordinary female happiness a little later.
Possible causes of an unplanned pregnancy
So, all women understand that pregnancy can be both planned and unplanned. Every expectant mother has a choice - to save the child or interrupt his development, give birth or not. One can talk endlessly about the moral aspect. Yes, every life is given for a reason, and every baby has the right to his birth. But is his parents looking at this?
Periodically, the church makes attempts to prohibit abortions in the country or to make them paid. But who will benefit from this? Most often, an unplanned pregnancy is interrupted just because of financial problems. And if the state makes abortions paid, the number of deaths will increase and more women will remain crippled due to domestic, criminal abortions.
What are the reasons that the pregnancy happened suddenly:
- A woman is breastfeeding a child, there is no menstruation. In this situation, when the first child is still very small, the question no longer arises whether giving birth to a second child is easier or not. Not every woman will decide on a second birth, so that the age difference between the two children is about a year. An unplanned second pregnancy often occurs precisely because young mothers are convinced that as long as there are no periods, pregnancy will not occur. But ... ovulation is often ahead of the first menstruation. Pregnancy can occur even when a woman considers herself “sterile”. The menstrual cycle can recover even in the first weeks after childbirth, even if the mother is very actively breastfeeding the baby.
- Interrupted intercourse did not "work." Because of such arrogance, an unplanned pregnancy can occur, especially in young girls. In the same way, douching with water with the addition of lemon juice, a solution of soap and the like will not help. The situation that happened is the result of one’s own ignorance and ignorance.
- The woman is confident that menopause has come and is not worried about anything. It turns out that if pregnancy occurs after 40 years, it is difficult to call it a rarity, because many women retain reproductive ability. But the number of miscarriages at this age is higher. But still ... Therefore, if a woman does not have her menstruation on time, even if she feels the symptoms of menopause (they may turn out to be early pregnancy toxicosis), but sexual intercourse has taken place, she needs to do a pregnancy test.
- Many speculate whether to give birth at age 35 or not. And after 40, this question is more relevant, because the older the female body, the harder the pregnancy can be tolerated and the more likely it is that a baby with Down syndrome and similar pathologies will appear.
- The chemical contraceptive turned out to be ineffective, the condom broke, the hormonal contraceptive did not drink on time. This can happen with every pair. To prevent an unplanned pregnancy, you should drink a hormonal emergency contraception. If a woman accidentally missed time and did not drink a hormonal birth control pill, she needs to strictly follow all the instructions in the instructions on this subject.
- According to estimates, women should not be ovulated. But the calendar method does not differ in accuracy, and doctors are not advised to focus only on it. It is better to find a more reliable contraceptive. By the way, sexual intercourse two to three days before ovulation can also cause conception: sperm live for several days.
Either yes or no
If a woman has decided to leave her baby, she needs to be registered for pregnancy. First, visit a gynecologist, who will examine her and, if necessary, send her to the ultrasound of the uterus. This is best done as early as possible. But if the expectant mother does not bother anything (the stomach does not hurt, there are no strong manifestations of toxicosis, there are no spotting from the vagina), then it is quite possible to wait a couple of weeks.
If the baby is not part of the family plans, it is necessary to have an abortion as soon as possible. The price for it is different, depending on the type and on the drugs used. More about this below. The shorter the term, the greater the likelihood that due to this operation there will be no further problems for a woman with reproductive health.
Up to twelve weeks of pregnancy, abortion is performed at the request of women. It is not necessary for its implementation to have medical indications. Referral to the procedure is taken at the antenatal clinic at the place of residence. If there is an insurance policy, this operation is done for free. A woman should be tested, an ultrasound scan done, and come to the hospital on the appointed day to terminate her pregnancy. Usually they are discharged on the same day, several hours later, as soon as the woman regains consciousness after anesthesia (if he was done).
Why is abortion terrible?
From many young women you can hear: "I'm afraid to give birth for the first time." This is understandable fear - no matter how much they read about childbirth, no matter how much they listen to the stories of girlfriends, acquaintances, neighbors, it is impossible to feel in advance everything that is not very pleasant at times. And the unknown and scary, perhaps the most.
It may seem strange, but some of the cases of abortion occur precisely because of these fears. Women, horrified by the upcoming pain of childbirth, do not even think about the medical consequences of abortion. And the fact that no pain can be compared with the happiness of taking your baby in your arms does not even enter their heads. Also, they do not think at all that infertility may occur after the first abortion.
Perhaps the main reason for further infertility is abortion, that is, the process of artificial termination of pregnancy. The likelihood that a woman can no longer bear and give birth to a healthy baby is quite high. If we talk about the percentage that after an abortion it reaches 15%. And this is even if there were no complications after surgery. Doctors say that infertility often occurs exactly when an abortion is performed during the first pregnancy, followed by violations of the reproductive function in women - miscarriages, complications during the next pregnancy.
If this procedure - abortion - is instrumental, then subsequently the desired pregnancy may not occur due to the fact that during the procedure there were endometrial injuries. If the “cleaning” was carried out too carefully, then later intrauterine synechia may form, which will not affect the uterus, which is fertilized. Since the cervix expands with this procedure, in many cases it is injured. And when pregnancy nevertheless later occurs, isthmic-cervical insufficiency may develop, which is a common cause of premature birth and late miscarriages. Because of such situations, reflections like “I'm afraid to give birth for the first time” are completely unfounded and not serious.
By the way, according to statistics, 9% of abortions cause all kinds of gynecological ailments. Therefore, every obstetrician-gynecologist advocates that it is better for a woman to avoid abortion using contraception than to experience medical manipulations on herself.
Types of Abortion
So, if a woman hesitates to give birth or not to her first child, second or third, she may have an abortion. As mentioned above, termination of pregnancy before the twelfth week is medically permitted. Moreover, the operation should occur only in a hospital and after a woman undergoes an examination.
The options for getting rid of unwanted pregnancy in this situation include the following:
- medical abortion - performed only at very early stages of pregnancy;
- fetal egg vacuum aspiration - done for up to 5 weeks;
- medical abortion - for a period of six to twelve weeks.
Which one is suitable for a particular woman, only the attending physician will decide. The use of some type of abortion depends on how much the baby is in the womb of the mother. In the early stages, a drug or vacuum is administered.
In any case, every woman who decides to have an abortion should know that after this procedure there may be consequences not only of a physical, but also of a psychological nature.
Quite often, inflammatory processes occur in the pelvic organs. They threaten subsequent miscarriages, a violation of the level of hormones, infertility.
If a woman has a negative Rhesus blood, then having an abortion now, subsequently deciding to have a baby, she may simply not be able to endure it because of the Rhesus conflict.
After an abortion, a hormonal imbalance occurs, because all systems and organs worked to ensure that the embryo develops normally and grows, and suddenly it disappears ... Uterine bleeding may begin, which will require repeated surgical intervention. During surgery, the doctor may accidentally violate the integrity of the uterus, its neck and their mucous membranes.
A failed mother happens to succumb to nervous breakdowns and becomes depressed.
After blind curettage is performed, scars often form. And if then the woman wants to get pregnant again, because of them the embryo will not eat very well.
It is important for every woman to remember that abortion is an operation performed by touch. Even if it is conducted by a highly qualified specialist. And the fact that immediately after the abortion no adverse effects were noticed does not mean that any complications will not begin in the future. All this must be known before deciding for yourself whether or not to give birth to a child. And to fully realize that everything that happens afterwards will be a consequence of our own decision.
The types of abortions have already been mentioned. But what is the price of abortion? It consists of the cost of anesthesia, surgery, consultation with a gynecologist, ultrasound, tests, a woman’s hospital stay.
If the patient has not yet done a blood group and Rh factor analysis, then you need to do it. The cost of abortion in medical clinics in Russia varies from five to twenty thousand rubles. The operation will be cheaper in sparsely populated areas and more expensive in large cities.
Medical abortion
How long do medical abortions do? It is done if the gestation period is not more than five weeks. This is the most gentle of all types of abortion. The cost of such an abortion is directly dependent on the drug: the domestic Mifepriston - 7 thousand rubles, the imported Mifegin - 15,000 rubles.
This option is suitable if the woman is faced with a choice whether or not to give birth to a third child. After all, when there are already two kids at home who often have no one to leave with, this will be at least some way out of the situation.
Tablets should be taken in a clinic, under the supervision of a doctor. All the rest of the time, the woman is in her usual atmosphere at home. It is there that a miscarriage occurs. In this case, even hospitalization in a hospital is not needed. Only it is necessary to clarify: regardless of how long they have a medical abortion, this procedure is paid, even if the patient has a medical policy.
Vacuum Abortion
Before a vacuum abortion (or mini abortion), a woman should not eat for 12 hours before surgery. Anesthesia is used, everything goes painlessly for ten minutes. Such an abortion is performed at a gestational age of 4-5 weeks.
This is a rather gentle operation in which the vessels of the uterus are not damaged. Since metal expanders are not used, injury to the cervix does not occur. This is very good, because subsequently the risk of miscarriage is reduced.
The price ranges from eight to twelve thousand rubles. In some clinics, it costs twenty thousand. The minimum cost is 6500 rubles, but here, most likely, analyzes and related medical services will be calculated separately.
Surgical abortion
Such an operation is prescribed for women whose gestational age is from six to twenty-two weeks. Perform it on an outpatient basis. That is, the patient does not have to lie in the hospital, on the same day she can return home.
The operation is also done to nulliparous women. Thanks to surgical intervention, the tissues of the fetal egg are destroyed, then they are removed with a curette: the doctor scrapes all the walls of the uterus from the inside to separate the upper layer of cells.
In time it takes from 15 to 30 minutes. This method is highly effective and does not require repeated intervention. The average cost in Russia is from seven to fourteen thousand rubles.
If a woman has an abortion during her first pregnancy, then the price will depend on the term and, of course, the best option for getting rid of the fetus. By the way, the clinic usually calls the cost of the operation, so you need to prepare for additional expenses. The initial appointment with a specialist will cost from 450 to 800 rubles. You will need to take tests: for hepatitis, Rh factor and HIV - 200 rubles each, a gynecological smear - at least 250 rubles.
Ultrasound may also be required. The cost of the study will also vary depending on the maturity of the fetus. Up to five weeks - about 400 rubles. In the future, the cost is higher. That is, the total amount of the preliminary study is at least one and a half thousand rubles.
Conclusion
If life develops in such a way that a woman faces the question of giving birth or not, she needs to understand that she should never, and under any circumstances, postpone the appearance of a child for later. After all, this notorious “later” may never come. Many years later, a woman who has an abortion will regret her choice and think about what kind of adult, smart and beautiful her baby could be.
And do not think that as soon as everything is settled down - there will be no problems with housing, money, comfortable work, you can begin to think about expanding your family. You just need to want to become a mom! Indeed, with the advent of barefoot and pink-cheeked happiness, life changes dramatically. And let sleepless nights and experiences appear, the great joy that this little miracle is does not detract from anything. Life will not become penniless and unbearable. And even if you have to deny yourself some ordinary things, most women will be happy to buy diapers, toys and baby food, rather than a new dress.
Therefore, summing up the above, I want to say this: if a woman became a happy owner of a test with two stripes, no matter what, she needs to give birth. She will never regret it. If she still thinks about what she should decide in the current situation and what is the percentage of infertility after abortion, it is better to quietly say to herself: “I am happy now and here. And I really dream of becoming a mother! ”