Finally, a long pregnancy was resolved. The kid, so glorious, published his first half-cry half-sob and fell asleep with a sense of accomplishment. Let him rest, because he has the most difficult year of his life ahead of him, during which he will turn from a helpless newborn into an active, everywhere poking his curious nose of a child.
The first months fly by as if someone had pressed the quick scroll button: fed, changed diapers, ran for a walk, fed, changed diapers, ran home, played, put to bed, fed again, bought, laid, and so on. In addition to all this, household chores are going on, and the baby needs to draw up documents, take certificates for work, periodically visit the clinic with a stroller, and the gynecologist does not interfere with a peek.
It is good if there are assistants who will prompt and replace when necessary. And if not, then hope is only in their own strength. And just emerged from this whirlpool, when suddenly on a walk from some mommy you can hear that her baby at 4 months old almost jumps out of the crib! At home , the baby's developmental standards are in a panic , and anxiety sneaks into the soul, the child at 3 months old does not turn over, but according to the norms, he should. And the pediatrician from the district clinic at the next examination asks a question about what the baby can do at this age. Anxiety is growing. What to do? Stop, exhaled and calmed down.
Why are there developmental standards?
We will deal with average standards. Recall physical education lessons. One is pulled up 6 times, the other - 12, and generally 10 is set. This does not mean that the physical form of the first is worse than the second. It's just that the first hand is weaker, but it runs faster than the second student. So here, if all the indicators (height, weight, chest width) are normal, and the baby is not turned over at 3 months, but confidently holds the toy and sticks it in her mouth, there is no cause for alarm.
The development standards were not invented in order to nightmare moms and dads. And for an adequate assessment of your child. We revealed weak arms, we find the right gymnastics and we train step by step. This is akin to landmarks on the traveler's road - where to move on.
What physical development depends on
The physical development of each baby is individual, in some - later, in others - early. Much depends on gender, physique (thin, chubby) and character (calm, active), weight and attention of the mother. Girls ripen faster, and if the boy is also chubby, then he will master coups only by 5-6 months. If the mother regularly pays attention to the baby, talks, and does business with the baby (does gymnastics, massage, takes water procedures), then he will both speak and roll over, and will sit down earlier than the parent who is always busy with her problems.
Physical development also depends on nutrition, whether the child receives enough mother’s milk (mixtures), perhaps due to flatulence and bloating, the baby does not eat up, respectively, and there is not enough energy for everything, and he quickly gets tired. That is why it is worth paying attention to the correspondence of weight and height.
Deviation detection
Nowadays, throughout the pregnancy, the development of the fetus is monitored, the slightest anomalies are recorded, and if something is not normal, the mother is forced to undergo an additional examination. If no inconsistencies were identified, the probability of having an unhealthy baby tends to zero. And the fact that a baby at 3 months does not roll on its side depends on other reasons.
Immediately after the birth of the baby, the baby is examined by a neonatologist two or three times and his reflexes are evaluated on the Apgar scale. The results of this examination are not related to the mental abilities of the child. Only physical data is evaluated. From 7 to 10 points they say that the child is healthy, there are no problems. A number below 6 indicates that the baby needs medical attention: most likely, the birth was with complications or the baby was premature. But even in these cases there is no reason for panic. Such children are being monitored more closely, and later they catch up with other babies.
No diagnosis
So, the baby has no diagnosis. So, an extra trip to a neurologist is canceled. Doctors are very often reinsured and prescribe courses of unnecessary drugs. Do not poison the little chemist, instead sign up for a massage with a professional. And even better if all sorts of rubbing and stroking daily will be done by my mother. Her confident voice and light relaxing movements of familiar hands will have more healing effect than pills.
In order for the child to want to roll over, it should be interesting to him. In the end, lie with the baby on the floor and demonstrate how a 3-month-old baby should roll over, show that it is funny. Perhaps the spinning movements will interest him, and the baby will try to repeat.
Diagnosed
If the neurologist doubts, an ultrasound scan of the brain will be required. It is recommended, not sparing money, to double-check the crumbs with at least two more competent specialists. In Russia, such diagnoses as hypertension-hydrocephalic syndrome, ADHD are present in 95% of newborns and, in most cases, are removed after a year. If the diagnosis is confirmed, do not be too lazy to ask the doctor as much as possible and be patient.
Hysteria and give up is not worth it. At this time, the question of why the baby at 3.5 months does not roll over should worry mother the least. The main thing is to follow the instructions of the doctor. After all, the baby will need the help of her mother, her confidence, a clear and cold mind to treat and overcome the ailment. Health is more expensive, later on physical development, he will catch up and overtake peers.
After a couple of courses of medications, several brain ultrasounds and a year of observation, the neurologist will be removed from the diagnosis, the maximum will be a new abbreviation and recommendations will be made to visit the neurologist once a year for prevention. Cases of really serious hydrocephalus are detected at the prenatal stage or after serious injuries!
Doctors advice
Even Carlson on the roof always says: "Calm, only calm!" And Dr. Komarovsky, in case the child does not turn over at 3 months, recommends treating her mother. Namely, her nerves.
All doctors unanimously advise, if the child is healthy, do not push him. So, he is not ready for this yet (insufficiently strong back, weak arms) or not interested. Doctors recommend helping the baby, but in no case force any kind of action (sit in pillows, put on a walker).
A step-by-step achievement of all standards is desirable, but not necessary! In some cases, these actions can greatly harm and lead to curvature of the spine, improper development of the hip joints. In the 21st century, children often step over and skip entire stages of development, returning to them completely off schedule. For example, the baby gets on its feet and only then learns to crawl on all fours, and on the tummy learns to move altogether at 11 months.
Landmarks for three months: what should a child be able to do?
So baby is healthy. At this time, the crumbs are already forming a daily regimen, it is quite capable of eating 1 time in 2-3 hours. It grows well and is on average recovering at 600-800 grams.
Roughly milestones for the physical development of a baby of three months look like this:
- holds the head well (30-40 seconds, sometimes more);
- lying on the tummy, rests on the handles;
- lying on his back, turns his head, looking for an interesting object;
- recognizes familiar faces (mom, dad), smiles;
- interested in their pens, reviews, tries;
- some begin to roll over to the side;
- reaches for a toy suspended from a crib 10-15 cm from the baby.
Moreover, the first four of the above are mandatory, and the remaining four are only desirable.
What depends on mom
The connection that originated between the newborn and mom during pregnancy gives her unlimited possibilities. Whether the child is healthy, seasoned, or frail and prone to colds - directly depends on her. Not only genes, the environment, but also mom influence a lot in the period up to a year. The more attention and love a parent gives her baby, the more protected he will feel in the future.
It is worth approaching motherhood responsibly and seriously, constantly reading supporting literature. And so that both mentally and physically, the baby does not lag behind peers, just follow a few tips:
- daily gymnastics is very useful for strengthening the muscles of the baby, the best time for her is morning;
- massage (light rotational, patting and stroking movements) the mother can perform the crumbs on her own from birth, this not only relaxes him, but also establishes bodily contact between him and the mother, positively affects the spiritual development of the child;
- reading books, various jokes, speaking during washing, bathing, games stimulates the baby to develop conversational skills, he will try to make sounds after his mother, which means he will speak earlier;
- a game for a child up to a year, even up to three years old, is a way to learn something new, learn something useful (for example, they rattled a toy, interest and put it side by side, so that, if desired, the crumb could reach it).
Even if the mother is forced to go to work by hiring a nanny, communication with the baby should be of high quality. Although it’s only an hour, this close communication (classes, games, swimming, reading, massage) can replace a 24-hour passive stay nearby. And then there will be no question why the baby is 3 months old and does not roll over on her stomach.
Afterword
The little man is the only creature that needs boundless love, care. This does not mean that you need to abandon everything in favor of the baby, no. Just the main thing after its appearance in life should be the adoption of crumbs as a person. With the right to individual development, personal mistakes and, although it’s too early to talk about it now, the choice of one’s own path.
No need to compare it with other children, because we are all far from ideal. Love the baby not for his achievements, but for the fact that he is. The vocation of mother, father is not to force to do something, but to teach, showing by example. Show, support, teach and release into life. Now you know if the baby should roll over to the side at 3 months.